adorn our wrists. They come in different shapes and sizes and they love
to be taken care of. There are a few things, which can literally elongate
the life of our favorite watches.
The straps of watches are usually made from leather. The quality of
these leather bands usually deteriorate depending on climate, sweat
acidity and levels of wear and tear. To secure the durability of your
leather straps, take the following precautions: 1) avoid soaking your
strap in water, 2) avoid prolonged exposure to sunlight, and 3) avoid
direct contact with solvents, detergents and perfumes.
And for those lovely bracelet watches to last for ages, keep them away
from hair spray, perfume and detergent; their chemical composition is
highly damaging to the texture of these wristwatches.
Batteries power all quartz watches, so if your quartz watch stops functioning,
have the battery checked as soon as possible. A "dead" battery
may cause serious damage to the movement if left inside the watch for
too long. Quartz analogue watches contain both electronic and mechanical
parts which require periodic servicing.
When making time and date adjustments to your watch, it is recommended
that you take your watch off your wrist.
Most of the watches have water-resistance capability. Always make sure
that the buttons on your watch are pushed home or screwed home, before
diving. A hard knock might cause a watch to lose its water resistance
without you realizing it. And be sure to service your water-resistant
watches regularly. Water-resistant watches must be opened and closed
by a skilled watchmaker.
A watch may last for decades if you know how to properly operate and
care for it. So take care of your watches and let them embellish your
wrist for a long, long time.
Chowdhury is a U.K. registered family welfare counselor. She has recently
moved back to Bangladesh after living in the UK for more than 30 years.
In the UK she has worked at Cornerstone Family Centre in Coventry as
a Family Counselor for many years. Her job as a counselor was to help
children and adults from different ethnic and cultural backgrounds cope
with the emotional and psychological problems they face in their day-to-day
The concept of "counseling" is quite new in Bangladesh. Hopefully
this discussion with her will give a better understanding of counseling.
What is counseling?
The process of counseling is to enable a person to make constructive
changes in his/her life. Counseling is a psychological process and it
focuses on altering how people feel and think so that they may live
their lives more effectively. Goals of counseling are to assist people
to heal past emotional deprivations, manage current problems, handle
transition, make decisions, manage crisis and develop specific life
The purpose of counseling is to encourage people to make choices, to
take personal responsibility for creating and making their own lives
better. In addition this process enables people to experience and express
feelings, think rationally and to take effective actions to attain their
goals. The gradual process of counseling assists a person to develop
self helping skills, not just to cope with present problems, but to
prevent and handle future problems. Thus the ultimate goal of counseling
is self-helping so that a person becomes his or her own best counselor.
Who can benefit from counseling?
I strongly believe that needs and problems of adults and children are
universal. It does not matter from which cultural background they come
from. In developed countries they have specially trained people to deal
with and help children and adults with individual problems.
Modem society has become so competitive that often we as adults have
no time to think about ourselves. We are under so much pressure with
our commitments and jobs that we sometimes overlook the important issues
affecting our children and ourselves. Due to these pressures we sometimes
do not give enough quality time to our children and therefore to fill
the gap we often buy material things to express our love. In fact material
things cannot fill the emotional needs. Emotional abuse or neglect cannot
be pinpointed or show any marks but it can be a scar, which affects
the rest of a child's life.
Children have many different emotional problems, which can arise from
loss in family, domestic violence, rejection from parents, difficult
relationship with parents, low self-esteem, family separation, foster-care
etc. These problems may affect their studies, schoolwork, and home life
as well as become obstacles in their later lives.
Counseling for adults is equally important. Research has shown that
stress is one of the major issues of modern society. Stress happens
whenever we are faced with challenges or changes in our lives. Over
the years as a counselor I have worked with people with difficult experiences
and have enabled them to develop coping mechanisms to handle their situations.
Women whether they stay at home or work, face a challenging environment,
making valuable contributions to society.
Can you relate some of your experiences as a counselor?
My duty and responsibility as a Family Counselor was to assess
the needs of the children and adults and then customize individual sessions
for them. For children, the objective was to enable them to express
their emotions in a way they felt comfortable and to then provide therapeutic
counseling. Each of the sessions was designed based on the age of the
child and his/her level of understanding. My work also involved helping
children build self-esteem, self-confidence and feelings of self-worth.
On certain issues I engaged parents to work together to build positive
relationships. Finally each individual was encouraged to explore his/her
skills and achievements, to evaluate his/her own performance and draw
an action plan for the future.
When I was working in the UK, a 10-year-old boy was referred to me by
his school for counseling. During the sessions he demonstrated behavioral
outbursts and very negative thoughts about himself and others. He seemed
to have extremely low self-esteem and self-worth. Due to his traumatic
experiences he lost his confidence and found it difficult to trust others.
My counseling work with him took more than a year. The initial task
was to build trust between the both of us. Next I encouraged him to
take responsibility for his own work. Subsequently this enabled him
to explore and experience different stages to overcome his fear and
negative thoughts. The final goal was to make him feel positive about
In the Bangladeshi context how can counseling apply?
In Bangladesh many changes are occurring in our social structure. Smaller
nuclear families are being created in the cities. Many women are working
outside the home due to financial constraints, to supplement their husbands'
income or in some cases due to separation from their spouses. Children's
expectations and demands are increasing as they compete against other
children. This puts financial burden on families as well.
All these factors are contributing to creating many emotional and psychological
problems in families. Counseling can help these people deal with their
What should people do?
Over the years, experience with different communities has given
me the opportunity to explore and learn about the difficulties and problems
people face. Any kinds of disability or psychological problems have
a stigma in society. People find it difficult to talk about emotional
problems. Due to this, people often avoid seeking any assistance until
there is a major breakdown.
My advice would be to aim for the preventative work rather than wait
for the crisis to happen. Make time for yourself and time for your children.
Listen to your children carefully. Allow them to express without fear.
Observe and monitor any changes in their behavior. Find the right professional
help for your child or yourself whenever necessary. Above all have patience
and respect for each other.