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Nasreen Sattar Senior Business Development Manager Standard Chartered Bank
Q.1 I was travelling back from an overseas visit and saw on the Customs Declaration form that I would have to declare if I was bringing in more than USD 5000/. Could you please advise me what is the correct amount I can bring in without declaration ?
A1. As per Bangladesh Bank Circular (F.E. Circular No:03) dated Jan. 6th , 2003 a passenger can bring in USD 3000/ without declaration . The amount previously used to be USD5000/ .
Q. 2 I had purchased 'Shanchaya Patras' six years back from Standard Chartered Bank. but I have forgotten about the maturity which expired five years back. Although I have lost the original Shanchaya Patras I have the debit receipt. According to the bank they are unable to do anything without the original Shanchaya Patras. I seek your advice as to how to recover the money.
A.2 To be able to recover the money you need to take the following steps:
Apply to the Bank with the debit advice with a request to provide you
with full details of the transaction.
My father passed away 10 years ago. He had an account at the American
Express Bank which we didn't know about. Recently, we found a 8 year
old note from the American Express Bank saying that his account will
be handed over to the Bangladesh Bank if no reply is made in a month's
time since the account had not been checked for years. The amount was
not mentioned in the note. What we would like to know is, how we can
find the amount of the account and what process we have to go through
to get the money if it is still possible. Can you give the contact address
and phone # with clarity.
Mr. Taufique had two sons i.e. Shafique and Rafique. He had opened a
Deposit Pension Scheme account with a private bank maturing after 5
years making his son Rafique his nominee to receive the proceeds in
case of his (Taufique’s) death. After the death of Taufique, Shafique
brought an injunction through court on the bank asking them to pay proceeds
to Mr. Rafique. The bank said in its reply that since late Tawfique
had nominated Mr. Rafique he is entitled to receive the proceeds.
Iinterpreter of Maladies
Dr. Nighat Ara, Psychiatrist
Q: My almost seven year old girl was casually asking me, if friends can marry. When I answered 'yes', she told me very sweetly that she wanted to marry two of her class friends. My husband and I were naturally very amused, however only later did it hit me - how do I address such issues as boys, biological changes in her body that she'll soon go through, romantic notions that she'll obviously get through TV, etc, etc. I want to be very right in this regard and at the same time not allow her to think of such things. I know this is too early but I couldn't help pondering, can you help me sort this out? Thank you.
Ans: A girl of seven years is just becoming conscious of her sexual identity and social role. Messages from TV, cartoons, tales and friends are the contributory factors in making her aware of these issues. As a parent, it would be wise if you answer her questions in a matter of fact way. Give her a simplistic version of scientific truth, neither in minute details nor any false statement, which could confuse her. Knowing the accurate facts will help her in the future against being influenced by any glamorized or distorted version of these issues. You choose a time when you are not in a hurry and your daughter is ready to listen. Avoid attaching any sense of toxic shame with these facts, so that she doesn't develop any negative attitudes, guilty feelings or become too sensitive about boys, relationships or physiological changes. The body changes she is expected to go through in her adolescence can evoke various kinds of emotions. Our society and media are always creating tremendous pressure on developing children particularly girls by modeling and labeling a perfect body (e.g.: height, weight, complexion, measurements etc.) which eventually affects their self-esteem. Give your daughter positive feedback which will enable her to have a positive self-image. Try to make her happy the way she is and with what she becomes. It is important that she feels good and comfortable with her own body. I am not really sure about what you meant by saying-" not allow her to think of such things". It sounds as if you want to control your child even at the thought level. If you believe in individuality and that we all are different from each other- then let her be what she is. We can help our children by giving only accurate information. Her thoughts and feelings belong to her and allow her to choose what she wants to carry on.
Q: My daughter is very angry and is loosing weight, everything is an ordeal for her and me, and I just had a son. Can you help me sort out her troubles positively?
Ans: You have not mentioned the age of your daughter, your family environment and support available to you. It is possible that after childbirth, you can not pay enough attention to your daughter and are very much preoccupied with the newborn. Under such circumstances, she could be feeling frustrated and expressing it through anger. Sibling jealousy can occur if she feels displaced by the newborn and has to share things, which she never had to do before. If you are neglecting her otherwise and paying attention only when she is angry, that is probably reinforcing her behaviour. Try to give her time as much as possible and involve her in childcare (e.g. ask her to play with the newborn, bring the diaper, etc.). Make her feel important and appreciate her help and participation. Tell her that you still love her the way you used to, the newborn is there to give her company and love too. Involve her father or whoever else is available to fill up the gap. Loosing weight may mean not eating enough though it can be another attention seeking behavior. It can be a transitional phase till the child can adjust to her new role. However, if symptoms are persistent and alarming, please seek help from a child psychiatrist.
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