Sadia Moyeen, Beautician La Belle
I am a regular reader of your column. I am facing some problems-
a) I have oily skin and lots of acne and black heads. Recently I am using St' IVES scrubber. What else should I use to get rid of this?
b) I want to lighten my skin colour. Can you suggest a pack which does not contain neem?
c) Which sunscreen will suit me most?
Please help me solve my problems.
Thank you, SM
(a) Using the scrubber is fine when there is no fresh exception of acne, because you have to be careful not to break fresh pimples, lest they scar.
There are several things you can do to help clear your skin.
-Wash your face several times a day with cold water.
-Apply cucumber paste on your face everyday if possible even twice.
-Drink plenty of water and keep your system flushed.
-Include enough Vitamin C in your diet or have chewable tablets. (500 mg/day) after meals.
If you feel there is no improvement after 3-4 weeks, consult a dermatologist.
(b) Deal with your acne first: as your skin clears your complexion will look clear anyway.
(c) Any completely Oil free sun block will do.
Hi, I am a man of 24 years. But I look like a teenager and I don't grow too much beard or moustache. It's really embarrassing. Can you tell me what kind of problem it is? And what kind of consultants I should go to? Please Help.
DO NOT want to be NAMED
Some guys just have a lighter hair growth than others. Keep your self clean-shaven so it's not too obvious. See an endocrinologist if you're really concerned. But really it's not an issue. Shahrukh Khan has no hair on his chest either and he has a global female fan club following, apparently he was also concerned at some stage in his life about this issue. So be confident, the ladies don't mind.
Hi, I am a 16-year-old girl. I am interested in reducing a few kilos of my weight. Since last month I am working on it and was successful in getting rid of a little fat from almost every part except for the waist. I had been doing many free hand exercises but I don't know what is effective for my waist. So can you please help me find a way of reducing the size of my waist?
Thanking you. -Pinky
Though this is not my field of speciality, I will tell you what works wonders for me. Clasp your hands straight above your head, keep your feet approx. 1/2 feet apart and stand straight. Bend to the left side ways as much as you can, hold position for 5 seconds and straighten again. You should feel the pull on the right side of the waist while doing this. Now repeat on the right side. Repeat this exercise 20 times on each side everyday.
Dear Ms Sadia,
I have moved to Dhaka recently. I noticed that my hair has become frizzy and dry in-spite of oiling it once a week and conditioning every alternate day. I am also losing hair drastically. My intake of vegetables and fruits is quite normal. Please advice. -Sneha
Your skin and hair is adjusting to a new climate as well as different water. It's quite normal to have a little hair loss at this point. Turn your hair, and use a leave-in conditioner every time you shampoo your hair.
I am a 15-year-old girl. My problems are:
1) My hair was very silky and beautiful but recently it has become rough and irritating. I oil once and shampoo five times a week but it is recovering very slowly. Can you please suggest a quick home remedy for it? By the way, what is the latest hairstyle of the season?
2) My skin tone is pretty fair but lately it's darkening due to sunburn. I don't want to apply sun block. Can you suggest any paste that can be applied to my whole body to give off a freshening look.
3) Please suggest a good hair remover that does not cause allergies and please state the time for re-growth.
(1) Oil once a week. Shampoo and condition twice a week. Mash I ripe banana, I tbsp olive oil, 2tsps rose water. Apply this pack weekly.
(2)What have you got against sun block? This is the greatest gift for sun protection. Apply uptan ½ cup, milk or yoghurt, ½ tsp haldi, 1 lemon's juice for full body and face.
(3) Veet or Nair are easily available here. Re-growth depends from person to person, approx 1 to 2 week .
Maheen Khan Fashion designer, Mayasir
The monsoon has arrived. The rainy days are here to stay with us for a few more months. I teach at a local kindergarten school. I am looking forward to a few days off. Could you help with some ideas on what should be worn in this season?
I love our monsoon. I must say, I quite enjoy the downpour, the lush greenery as everything comes alive, and the smell of white scented flowers. But unfortunately it also is the season when nothing seems to dry. Clothes need to be put in the dryer and not sun dried as is probably the norm in Bangladesh, although you could of course always have it laundered. If you are like me then you will continue to wear through all adversity linen, khadi, or endi. Although you may also wear high finished cottons, terry cottons, voiles. Light synthetic georgettes, micro chiffons are also good during the monsoon. These dry very easily. Colours for monsoon can be in natural hues of green, khaki, terracotta, yellow, or saffron. Try to wear short salwars with kurtas that are light. If you prefer westerns then go for long gypsy skirts with cotton tunics.
I am a 62 years old. I picked up crochet as a young person. Later through my years of travel I bought many books to train myself and get a better grip on techniques. I must say I am quite proud of the beautiful things I made for my home. I am aware that it is quite fashionable again. Please suggest a few items I could make for my grand daughter who has turned 14 this year.
Crochet is back in a big way. You could make crochet accessories like belts, hair ties, or even bracelets. Shoulder bags or pouches are really trendy now and kids simply love it. If you are willing to invest more time I would suggest a wrap top or an open front cardigan. It is such a precious gift, I am sure she will be thrilled to receive it.
A great way to check how healthily you're eating is to look into your fridge. At least a third of the contents should be fresh fruit and vegetables. Go for a rainbow of colours that will provide you with all the vitamins and minerals you need. Remember, the five-A-day rule is just the minimum our bodies need to sustain health. Ideally, we need to be eating seven or eight portions of fruit and veggies a day, so get munching.
UNDER A DIFFERENT SKY
By Iffat Nawaz
From the lack of PDA
I was in the middle of the bay, a bay which was not shallow, the waves were high up, threatening me with each of their swings. My small kayak was filled with water, it was an open one- the ones which place you only slightly above the sea level. I felt fear. I asked myself, "What was I thinking? Why am I here? I can be dead in a few minutes." The thunder roared in answer to my questions; I rowed fast trying to get to the shore, while the big boats miles away created ripples to swing me into a wider circle. I was almost petrified. I wanted to reach the shore. And then in between the sharp and stiff fear I felt amazingly calm. I felt I was, perhaps the first time in my life, away from all my common elements, my known boundaries, my circular territories. I smiled, not because I was brave, but because I am weak, because death is easy but fear of death is tough, if I never reach the shore, what will be my regrets I thought- any last words, any last wishes?
What's the point of seeing anyone for the last time when you know it's the last time, or say certain words or give out a secret. What's the point? We don't believe in "I love you's" as Bengalis anyway, so what would be the point of calling my Mother to tell her I did love her for the first time in my life and the last, or calling a friend and with a tearful voice and ask them to miss me. I never expressed myself to them that way in the first place, I am a Bengali, I love but I don't express, I feel but I don't hug, and I have grown up with criticism of Public Display of Affection (PDA). To not ever see parents hug is such a traumatic experience for Americans, and to us Bengalis it's such a blessing, growing up with stiff straight bodies how would I know how it feels to see my in-love married parents give each other hugs.
"I love you" in Bangladesh is almost pornographic to utter or hear at a young age, at least that's how it was when I was growing up. My parents never said they loved me, and I never said I loved them, and I never heard them say they loved each other. The word "love" belonged to Hindi movies and to the boys in the street corners who would write us letters using blood (chicken's most probably) to express their devotions with the mere red "I love you." So no I didn't regret much.
It's amazing though how much that one phrase cannot mean to a Bengali. "I love you." Thrown around quite easily, first meetings to second, and couples are in love and by the 10th they break up. However, the middle meetings are wonderful just because of that one phrase. It's like a password to a woman's heart, you must be in-love to be near her, if you are not, she is of lose character to give you a chance and you are a player of evil cards. So "I love you" is quite negative to me. "Faltu" as a proper Bengali would say it. Love is no good neither is bhalobasha, prem is worse and the worst is PDA.
I looked out to the puffed up ocean, it reminded me of me, me and my other fellow Bengalis, with locked up emotions and affections, affections that knows know boundaries, expressions following cultural cliché's, so I screamed out "I love you" to no one, and for the first time in my life, I really meant it.