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One of the biggest concerns of parents for their children in school and in life is bullying. It has become a major social concern now.
High-level forms of violence such as assault and murder usually receive most media attention, but lower-level forms of violence such as bullying, have only in recent years started to be addressed by researchers, parents and guardians and authority figures.
It's all about power. Power can be intoxicating, exhilarating and addictive. But power, when abused, turns into bullying, and bullying hurts people, leaves lasting scars and can destroy lives.
Bullying behaviour may include obscene name calling, written and physical abuse, or psychological manipulation.Bullies may behave this way to be perceived as popular or tough or to get attention. They may bully out of jealousy or be acting out because they themselves are bullied or lack proper parental care.
Bullying is a form of abuse. The strong manipulate the weak by intentional, repeated hurtful acts like senseless pranks and public humiliation.
In schools, bullying can occur in nearly any part in or around the school building, though it more often occurs during the lunch break, in hallways, bathrooms, on school buses and classes that require group work.
A group of students can take advantage of or isolate one student in particular and gain the loyalty of bystanders who may participate or watch, sometimes out of fear of becoming the next victim. These bullies taunt and tease their target before being physical, generally picking on pupils who are considered strange or different by their peers to begin with, and considerably not confident.
Parents and teachers should listen carefully to the situations the abused children report honestly. They should make sure that the innocent victims consequently have no permanent psychological damage or identity crisis. Teachers should strictly supervise the bullies on a daily basis aiming to rectify their wrong behaviour though positive counselling. After all, bullies are children too, only acting on wild imaginations.
Parents and teachers should find the victims a support system. Those children should understand clearly that they themselves have no personality disorders. They should persevere to be focused in life, considering that “bullying” cannot stop them in their pursuit of success.
I have a message for the bullies. I want this aggressive behaviour to be challenged in childhood, because there is a danger that it may become habitual and put you at risk of criminal behaviour and domestic violence in adulthood.
We all loved fairytales in our childhoods. Whatever their country of origin, these prince and princess stories are such favourites of children the world over, that they have gained a staggering amount of global appeal. Especially where little girls are concerned, daydreaming and fantasising about being a princess is nothing unheard of.
In today's feature, we describe a little girl's room in which we incorporated this element of fantasy. Although the room is not spacious, it has a dressing space attached to it. As a designer, whenever I get the opportunity to decorate a little girl's room, I always make sure to consult her about her preferences and special requests just as well as finding out her parents' choices and requirements. Common threads in most choices include the colour pink, which young girls seem endlessly inclined to, castles, Barbie dolls and more recently, Hannah Montana posters.
The colour pink is a member of the red family and red, a primary colour, represents action, energy and works to alert people from danger. Red comes in many shades and variations, from deep wine to crimson to soft pinks and gentle lilacs. The stronger, richer tones of red absorb light and make a room look smaller, while the lighter hues create a warm and cozy ambiance. When red is used on a wall or ceiling, it has the effect of making the area seem closer, therefore it is useful in planning open rooms with high ceilings. Using red on its own can also add drama to an area, just as highlighting a wall deep magenta or cherry red can work to draw one into a certain space.
The use of the colour red does not necessarily have to have an old-fashioned effect; a shade of rose crush or orchard pink can lend a modern, youthful and vibrant appeal.
For my little client, I decided on a pink and yellow colour palette. Pink suppresses anger and hostility. It suggests tenderness, romance and represents femininity in western cultures. The space is limited and there is a spacious wall on only one side. Thus, we placed a single, classic bed on one side against the window, in a way that would create more space in the room, which is especially necessary to accommodate an abundance of toys, dolls and Lego. I incorporated a circular hanging canopy over the bed to work as a mosquito curtain made of baby pink soft, netted fabric. The mosquito net falls from the canopy to the floor and surrounds the bed in a way that creates a cozy feel for the entire room. I used yellow fabrics for the bed cover and curtains and as these were bought from Chadni Chawk, they were priced very reasonably. Thus, the room has a muted colour chart of white, yellow and pink.
Furniture in the room has been kept to a minimum, with a small white wardrobe and bookshelf placed on the opposite side of the bed. In the small area between the bed and wardrobe, a carpet has been placed for the little girl to play on.
Although the room is white, one wall was made very colourful by a fairytale themed, water colour artwork by artist Razzaq. The tall castle, fairy, numerous flowers and portrait of a little girl instantly add an element of drama into the room.
A dressing room is attached to the bedroom, where her mother has arranged a dressing closet, low chest of drawers, and most of her toys so that the main room is kept clutter-free.
For final touches, I arranged one or two photos and other small decorative elements. Although not all children are lucky enough to have their own rooms, and even if they are, many parents do not want to spend on their children's rooms, sometimes a little effort can transform a mundane bedroom into a room truly befitting your little princess!
Nazneen Haque Mimi
SADIA MOYEEN Beautician, La Belle, 13/A /2 Kemal Ataturk Avenue , ( 3rd/ 4th fl ) Gulshan -2
There was a time, long long long ago when the only hair accessories available were flowers. Though as far as I am concerned, they still head my list of favourites to dress hair. Fresh jasmine in a bride's braid or roses in her curls are definitely added attractions - ask any groom. Not to mention the heroines of the sixties who started the trend of wearing hair accessories with their bouffants and tight churidar kurtas, there would still be this one Tiger Lilly behind Asha Parek's ear or a huge rose, but they carried it with such élan that we have still not forgotten it. Nor have we forgotten the quivering flower that would magically, and strategically block the kissing lips of the heroes and heroines; us little kids would bend this way and that trying to look past the interrupting flower!
Those were the days; then came the seventies with the thick hair bands of fabric and ribbons and bows that would put a gift wrapping to shame, nevertheless with a charm of its own. Then came the forehead band during the discoing mid and late seventies a la Mithun Chakraborty, Zeenat Aman, John Travolta and so on. Even for me that was too much to swallow; thank God it's all in the past! By this time I was sent off to boarding school and didn't come out until the mid-eighties; no movies, no television, no nothing. Those days it was so uncool to use make up, watch movies or listen to Abba or Air Supply (all of which I secretly loved), and hair accessories? You must be kidding!
Hair accessories and ornaments have from time immemorial been an integral part of the desi woman, from the time when women wore flowers in their hair every single day of their lives, to today, where it has now become seemingly confined to formal occasions only but is still a very crucial part of our culture. Not to mention that jewellery for hair has been an ancient custom; kings and queens and common folk, all wore some form of hair ornaments . Even today, imagine a bride without her tikly or jhoomar (jhapta). How taken aback will we be? So no matter how modern we have become, inherently we, as a race, simply love to get dressed up from head to toe!
Today there are endless options with which to accentuate your hair, from simple scrunge clips that gently hold your hair in a casual style, to hair extensions that can add body or length or both to your hair. These can be weaved into your natural hair or can be clipped on to strategic sections of hair. Ready-made buns, braids with or without ornaments, stones etc; the list of accessories is endless.
Diamante hair clips, combs and brooches are very popular and can look quite good if not too overdone. Dry flowers, feathers, pins, clips, stickers - whatever takes your fancy, as long as you can carry it well.
Everything said and done, nothing like a hair accessory to dress up and brighten your look!
Photo: Sazzad Ibne Sayed
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