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The Hindi songs to dance to are very two years ago. Now, we have a wide variety of rhythmic wedding music in Bangla! Love songs, wedding songs, and so much more to dance to.
I can see my sister getting cold feet while the women in the parlour are doing her make up and she's fidgeting on the seat. On the evening of her holud, she looks at me with scared eyes expecting me to give her some words of advice. On the contrary, I'm sitting next to her with a big grin on my face just waiting to step in and start dancing! Yes, all I can think about is the big holud hungama!
Of course, the wedding is the most important part of any bride or groom's life. Beginning from their clothing, to jewellery, to accepting the fact that they're about to start a new life altogether, there's so much for them to be worried about. As for the siblings and cousins, their main worry and excitement lies solely in the holud. Their thoughts are mostly about what songs to pick, how to choreograph the dances, which of their best friends are going to perform, how many songs to dance to, what to wear for the dances and so on and so forth.
Justified enough, the holud counts for a lot more than just putting on some turmeric on the bride and groom's faces in order to make them look perfect for the wedding. The holud…is a war! It is a war between the youngsters of both households. It's a competition to see which house emerges victorious in terms of presenting the most entertaining show. This includes clothing, decorations, dalas, the dances and the music. The more fun the guests have at your side's holud, the surer you are that yours is definitely better!
Now, to make sure the guests have the kind of fun you want, there are a lot of tricks you can call upon. Just dancing to some random music won't work. Nowadays, most children seem to choose any kind of fast Hindi music to make sure their dances are rhythmic. They forget that the more wedding related the songs are, the cuter and more fun the dances look. Since it's a holud, it already has a theme and it's the most fun theme to work with.
Dancing solely to Hindi songs is very two yeas ago. Now, we have a wide variety of rhythmic wedding music in Bangla! Love songs, wedding songs, and so much more to dance to. Yes, you can use one or two Hindi songs to brighten things up a notch, but it's best to stay as traditional as possible.
Traditional holuds are back…and back with a bang! 'Amar gorur gari te bou shajiye' gives you the perfect scenario of a cute couple about to be wed. Absolutely ideal to dance to at a holud! There are songs like 'Jadu', 'Panjabiwala', 'Dola de' and so many other tracks by Mila and Habib that are easy to dance to and bring that certain perk to holud dances.
Sometimes, randomising some sweet love songs can do the trick. And putting on a little skit works like a charm. Acting out the love story of the bride and groom with songs that suit the situation can be enough to bring a smile to the guests' faces.
You should always remember, the more you enjoy, the more the entertainment for the audience. So, the one thing you should always keep in mind is that you have to let loose and have as much fun as possible.
So, as I sat there grinning like an idiot, I said to my sister, 'Don't you worry, once you see us dancing…you'll forget all you inhibitions'. And she knew it was true, even she was starting to get hyped about it all, hyped about the long awaited 'holud hungama!’
By Naziba Basher
A green wedding
A green wedding is an Eco-chic wedding that is also elegant and classy. Most couples who wish to get married the green way do not want to sacrifice beauty and elegance. After all, this is the most important day in their lives and they want it to be as memorable as possible. If you are thinking of having this kind of wedding, let this guide enlighten you on how to have a smashing green wedding that your guests will love.
Now, if you really want to have a romantic evening wedding, just see to it that you use soy candles, which burn cleaner and longer than traditional wax candles. Candles help reduce the use of electricity and at the same time, create a romantic atmosphere for this special occasion. Also, it is advisable to hold the ceremony and reception at the same place to reduce fuel consumption.
Having a green wedding does not mean you should sacrifice beauty and class. With eco-chic weddings being all the rage these days, you can have a beautiful environmentally friendly wedding that you and your future spouse will both enjoy.
- LS Desk
How often have you been to a wedding that had no spice to it? Quite often, I believe. Just the typical food, a little music, plastic smiles, a few handshakes, some awkward hugs and even more plastic smiles - and that's it, you are on your way back home.
But the trend is changing these days. A wedding is perhaps the most important event in a person's life. It's definitely the most exciting and thrilling turning point. As such, it's only natural to want to make it as much fun as possible to spread the happiness not just to a few close ones but to all your guests. Keeping your company entertained, however, is no easy business.
Here are a few suggestions to help you out.
Music and lyrics!
What can possibly be more beautiful than a traditional wedding, and what can possibly be more traditional than having folk musicians singing at the holud to the soul-serenading music of the ektara, dotara, and the dhol? Also, young, inspiring talents in the likes of Arnob and others, have come up with innovative versions of classic Lalon numbers that will capture the hearts of their listeners, and playing this music in the background will make any wedding event one to remember.
Another option is hiring a stage singer, or a band. Whether you go for classic folk singers or a band, nothing is more entertaining than a live performance.
Or, if you think you can handle it, try performing karaoke at the mehendi night. Your guests can sing along with the pre-recorded instrumental versions of songs, with the lyrics displayed on a screen with the music. Although karaoke is not yet as popular in our country, it is nevertheless a good idea to consider if it suits your guests' tastes.
You can always have some music playing in the background if you don't want to go through all the hassles. And, you have a wide array of music to choose from. At weddings, the shehnai is always befitting. Therefore, get hold of a couple of albums. Also, get an album or two of Buddha Bar and Nitin Sawhney. Of course, you won't find all the tracks to go with the wedding theme, but you will surely want to add in a few of these to set a unique tone to your wedding.
Also consider adding some Bengali music. The more recent songs produced by the younger generation of musicians have gained tremendous popularity.
Hindi songs are also extremely popular in our Bangladeshi weddings. Thus, respecting the demand, you should put on some Bollywood songs too!
Shall we dance?
Prepare some parody songs. In order to take this one step further, you can prepare a stage drama, mocking some close relatives and friends. But this of course, is for the holud.
Guess the bride!
Here comes the bridegroom!
Now that was from the bridegroom's side. But the opposite party has an even more exciting job! Not letting the bridegroom pass through the gate without paying an agreed amount is a common tradition at our weddings. Add a new flavour to it. Instead of or in addition to charging money, demand that the bridegroom sing a song or recite a poem!
Words and memories
By M H Haider
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