I'm a senior student at DU. I have a sister who passed her
SSC exams last year. I brought her to Dhaka and bore all
her expenses so she could pursue her studies. She did fine
in her first year here but got only a simple First Division
in her HSC's which really disappointed me. She took coaching
for medical college and sat for admission tests at several
institutions but failed. Disappointed, I sent her home and
didn't let her sit for the admission test under National
University. I'm quite frustrated and don't know what to
do with her now. Please help me.
--A very worried brother
Although I empathise with your frustration, I think that
you are being a little unfair on your sister. She might
have tried her best and still did not make it to the profession
of your choice. I am not sure how wise it was for you not
to let her sit for the admission test for National University.
I suggest that you ask her what she wants to study and what
her interests are. Perhaps she will do better in subjects
that she likes. Sending her back home will shut options
for her and in future she might blame you for it. I am sure
that you have her best interest at heart but in order to
really help her you must take her into confidence.
I am 22 and studying BBA at DU. I'm in love with a girl
also at DU, studying Economics. But we're both very ambitious
and bent on achieving good academic results. So much so
that we hardly have time for each other but sometimes I
feel really bored when we can't meet. I have many friends
but no one special I can express myself to. What can I do?
BBA is a tough course and needs a lot of hard work. I do
not see any problem if you both have made it a priority
to get good grades. Perhaps at this stage of your lives
this is what is required. You will have lots of time to
be together later on. The important thing is to feel confident
and good about your relationship. And sometimes if you feel
really bored there is again nothing wrong in seeing her.
I am a 1st Year Honours student. When I was in Class 9,
I developed a habit of masturbating and it went on for years.
But after reading a health page in a youth magazine which
said, “Masturbation is not harmful to health, but this bad
habit should be given up for sure”, I tried really hard
and finally gave up the habit. But a few months ago, the
health page of a renowned Bangla paper said, “For those
who are afraid to masturbate due to baseless fears: it is
not “not bad” for health, but actually good. You should
keep your sex organ active.” A common health suggestion
in western countries is “Use it or lose it”. Masturbation
is supposedly a way of staying sexually active and healthy
and is encouraged. Now I'm confused. Is it actually good
or bad for health? And is it right on moral and religious
I am not qualified to answer your question and therefore
suggest that you take the help of a medical doctor.