Right after my HSC exams, a friend of mine proposed to me
and expressed her deep love for me. For reasons of my own,
I could not give her a positive response. I promised her
that we would remain friends. I left to study abroad in
1998 and we kept in touch over email. When I returned to
Dhaka in 2003, she had already gotten married to someone
else. I also am making plans to get married. However, a
few days ago, she called me and said that she still loves
me, and was willing to make any sacrifice necessary to be
with me. I tried to dissuade her by reminding her of her
responsibilities to her family and her husband. She replied
by telling me that she has loved me for five years and she
was willing to just have my love for one day. If I refused
her then it would be humiliating, degrading and very painful
for her. She is asking me give her my love just for a day.
I have to say that I am tempted and her proposition sounds
very logical to me. I am kind of motivated to go through
with this. What should I do?
--Motivated and Confused
You have not said how you feel about her. If you are planning
to get married to a particular girl then you must also remember
your commitment towards her. Will it be wise to do something,
which you might have to hide from your future wife? As for
her, I think that she is being childish and immature. There
is no guarantee that she will stop with just one day of
your love. This might end up being more than you have bargained
for. Please think carefully about all the consequences before
you decide anything.
I'm 19 and love this girl called “F” who I met through my
cousin. But I made the mistake of mailing and playing pranks
on F's friend whose address I also got from my cousin. I
told my cousin I liked F and even gave her gifts through
her. But now the other girl has told F about the pranks
I played on her and now she doesn't accept my gifts and
she has never replied to my mails. But I really love her.
I never even got a chance to talk to her properly, she doesn't
even know me well. What should I do?
I guess you will have to pay some price for playing silly
pranks. I hope they were not too serious and that you will
be forgiven. You may try to talk to F and convince her that
you meant no harm. However, remember it is her call to forgive
you or not. If she does not then you will have to accept
the consequences. However, if you are sincere then you might
be able to, in some way, communicate to her that for the
moment you just want to be her friend. I do not think she
will be ready for any serious relationship right away.
I have just passed my HSC exams and am taking coaching for
IELTS. Whenever I enter my class, everyone looks at me and
then turns away because I'm not good-looking. I don't know
why people give so much importance to looks. We don't have
any control over how we look. It's not my fault I'm bad-looking.
I feel very uncomfortable in class. What should I do?
This world is full of silly, uncaring people and your class
friends fall in that category. You can show them with your
intelligence and achievements that looks are certainly not
the most important thing in life. I agree that people give
too much importance to looks over which we have no control.
You must build up your confidence by excelling in whatever
you do. This has nothing to do with how you look. I can
bet soon they will seek you out to help them.