I'm a graduate from one of the best institutions in Bangladesh.
I completed my graduation last year and have been trying
to get a job since but couldn't. I sent a number of CVs
to various organisations in response to advertisements but
none of them have replied. I don't understand why. I don't
understand whether I'm over-qualified or under-qualified.
Most of the organisations are looking for job experience
but how can I gain experience if I don't get a job? My family
is not being supportive and often rebuke me for failing
to get a job. I'm very frustrated. What should I do?
It is always difficult to get the first job, not only for
you but for most people. You are absolutely right in saying
that how you can gain experience without a job. Well, that
is a part of the deal. You will have to get your foot in
somehow and then gradually make an impression. With your
motivation, educational qualifications and skill, I am sure
a job is just around the corner. It is a matter of time,
and you will just have to persevere. Remember, the thing
about a job is that today you might be unemployed and tomorrow
you might be called for an interview and be successful.
Therefore, put your frustrations aside and concentrate on
your job search, it is just waiting around the corner.
I'm going through a very difficult time right now. My boyfriend,
who I've been with for the past two and a half years, has
broken up with me because he thinks I don't trust him. I
said something to him on impulse which really upset him
and which I really regret. But he's convinced that I don't
trust him and refuses to get back with me though I've pleaded
several times. Everyone tells me to be patient or to move
on. I'm unable to do anything without him. How do I convince
him that I really do trust him? Please don't tell me to
talk it over with him because I've tried that several times.
If you have done all the talking, pleading etc then it is
time to stop now. He will have to rationalise and decide
if he wants to continue this relationship. Certainly you
have made an error, but that does not mean that he will
hold it against you for ever. He is putting too much emphasis
on a single act while he should think about your relationship
in its totality. He needs to appreciate all the other aspects
of your personality that brought both of you together in
the first place. However painful it might be, just be dignified
from now onwards and continue to be the person you are.
If he comes back then he loves you, if he does not then
he is not worth crying for.
I'm a 21-year-old student of a private university. I'm in
love with one of my teachers. We're fit for each other in
every way. Our age difference is also reasonable. I'm a
serious type of person and have never been involved with
anyone else. I can't think of anyone other than this man
as my life partner but he has no idea about my feelings
for him. Is this wrong? If not, how should I go about this
I respect your conviction that he is the right person for
you. However, relationships are between two people and both
must have a say in all decisions. Without going any further,
you must try to understand his feelings about you. If he
has no idea about how you feel then you have to take the
first step to inform him. Please do not build castles in
the air which might lead to too much disappointments later