Since my boyfriend (25), was Christian and half English,
he wasn't accepted in my traditional family and so we split
up because my parents pressured me to. I (21), promised
my family that I would never see or talk to him again and
I assured them that he's not in my life anymore. But we
love each other a lot and it's difficult for me to move
on without him. I chat with him online and we talk on the
phone sometimes though we never meet. I am determined not
to hurt my family by having a relationship with him again
but sometimes I can't help wanting to talk to him. But I
feel low and guilty as I'm cheating my parents. What should
iSoLdE (what does this mean?),
You are being very mature and sensible in trying to listen
to your parents. However, if your heart is so set on this
person then you will have to think seriously about talking
to your parents. You are an adult now and although it is
very important to be sensitive to the wishes of your parents,
at some point in your life you will have to take decisions.
Perhaps you should meet other young men and see how they
compare with your friend.
I'm suffering from schizophrenia and am struggling to get
cured. I live with my grandmother as my parents live abroad.
I was in love with a non-Bangladeshi, Christian guy for
three years who lived in the US. He was suffering from blood
cancer. I last received an e-mail from him in May and haven't
heard from him since. I think he has passed away but I can't
accept it. What should I do? I don't know his address or
anything. I believed my love was true. Can it fail?
Your love has not failed if someone has passed away. Try
to contact him again through e-mail or through a common
friend and find out the present situation. You are a brave
person to be facing so many odds. I am sure that you will
get cured someday and find the right person as your life
I'm 18 and not yet stable enough to choose a steady romantic
partner. But I've fallen in love with this guy. I don't
know whether it's an obsession or an infatuation. My friends
discourage me simply because he's not good-looking. He's
not ugly, but shorter than I am and not a good student.
But it's the soul behind the face that counts,isn't it?
He doesn't have any of the things I like but I love him
for what he is. Yet everyone who hears about us is against
it. I don't know whether I'm making a mistake. Please help.
You are only 18 and there is plenty of time to select a
steady romantic partner. You are mature to realise that
looks do not matter and it is the person behind the face
which has attracted you. However, you should also seriously
think about why you like him. You should also help him to
become a better student which will help him to gain more
confidence and earn the respect of others. It is hard to
tell if this is real or just an infatuation. For the present,
just take time to understand him better and not get too
I'm a 2nd Year pharmacy student of DU and an ardent admirer
of your writing. I'm very weak in English. I try reading
the newspaper but I have a lot of trouble with the words
and sentence patterns and need to look up the dictionary
in almost every sentence. This frustrates me and I lose
my patience. I don't know what the proper way is to learn
English. Please help.
Where there is a will there is a way. It is not easy to
learn English and reach a high level of proficiency but
you can certainly learn to read, write and speak English
reasonably well if you try hard. There are many teaching
aids, both audio and visual; you can watch movies and read
a lot. You must also try to speak even if you make mistakes.