Many students dream of studying abroad. Those who are well-off
can make their dreams come true. But for middle-class families
it's very difficult to sent their children abroad. The richer
ones don't only go and study abroad but also work there
and send home some money. But the different embassies have
rather strict requirements for this. I have been trying
to go abroad for about a year but without success. I've
become depressed and can't study or sleep. How can I overcome
Dealing effectively with reality is also part of growing
up. How you handle adverse situations and overcome hurdles
in life proves your maturity. Not being able to go abroad
is no reason to become depressed and destroy your life.
You can only overcome it if you want to. Just think of thousands
of others who would give anything to be in your shoes, that
is, the chance to get a good education. Please come out
of this and concentrate on your studies. Your chance to
go abroad is academic excellence.
I'm a 20-year-old Honours student at a reputed university.
When I was in Class 10, I fell in love with one of my classmates.
We loved each other very much. I couldn't go a moment without
seeing her. During our H.S.C.s, her family compelled her
to marry someone else and she couldn't keep the promises
she had made me. I was shocked at her marriage and felt
like I had lost everything. Her marriage, however, did not
last long and she got a divorce within six months. Now she
wants to come back to me. I still love her but my family
won't accept her: and if I marry her, they won't accept
me either. I have my family on one side and my love on the
other and don't know which to choose and which would be
better for me. Please help me.
You are only 20 and much has happened in your life. You
have demonstrated a lot of maturity for a person so young.
You should not rush into anything. Give time to your parents
to accept this situation which is difficult for any family.
Both of you should wait and try to convince your parents.
They should be convinced about the strength of your relationship
and how much you mean to each other. They will ultimately
understand and agree. The important thing is to support
and help each other to grow professionally and emotionally.
I have recently completed my H.S.C. exams
and have already been admitted into two coaching centres.
I have always wanted to be a doctor but my parents want
me to be an engineer, which is why I have to take classes
for both. But this is very difficult for me as the systems
of the two coaching centres are very different, not to mention
the financial burden. I don't know what to do. Please help.
need to talk to your parents seriously before it is too
late. You certainly should not be forced to study something
that you are not interested in. Explain to them of the negative
impact this will have on your life. You have to give some
forceful arguments and take the help of some relative, an
aunt or uncle.