I have been happily married for four years. I live with
my in-laws who are modern and love me very much. My husband
promised me, before we got married, that we would start
living in a separate house after six months but he has forgotten
all that. Now I want to live in a house of my own. I love
and respect my in-laws but staying with them all the time
makes me lose my independence and ability to take household
decisions. Can you please suggest how to do it? I have talked
to my husband several times but he turns a deaf ear. My
in-laws understand this but they don't say anything either.
Please help me.
While I understand your predicament, I advise you to
be a little more patient. You can of course say that you
have already been patient for four years, which is true.
However, relationships are very precious and have to be
handled with care. You have the right to want your own home,
but at the same time if this desire jeopardizes your relationship
with your in-laws or with your husband you will have to
think if it was worth it. I hope you have also taken into
consideration the additional expenses this move will incur.
You should seriously talk with your husband and make him
understand how serious you are. The other option might be
talking with your mother-in-law if you are close enough
with her. Whatever, you do, do it in a way that does not
strain your relationship with your husband.
I'm 23 years old and am growing bald. People tell
me that I won't be able to get married because girls will
be repelled by my baldness. I have tried things to stop
my baldness but I don't know what will work. Will girls
really avoid me because of this and I won't be able to marry?
in young people even your age is becoming common. I cannot
say if girls will decline to marry you or not but you must
at least try to prevent this. Please see a skin specialist
who might recommend remedies. Certain beauty parlours offer
advice on how to prevent loss of hair. You must also monitor
your stress level because that is also a cause of hair loss.
To answer your question on marriage. Women look for sincere,
honest and intelligent people to marry. Though physical
attractiveness is a factor, it is not the most important
factor for women.
I'm a 15-year-old girl in Class 10 at an English medium
school. I will appear for my O'Levels in 2005. One of my
classmates does not have a private tutor for one of her
courses which will make it very difficult for her to do
well in the exam. But her parents won't allow her to have
a private tutor and simply told her to stay home and study
properly. She told me this one day while crying and I tried
to make her understand that she needs a tutor but she also
told me that her parents wouldn't understand this. Her parents
have financial problems but so do mine -- they don't let
me feel the problem. Is there anything I can do to help
her as a friend?
friend is lucky to have someone who is so concerned about
her welfare. However, I really do not know how you can help.
This is a family matter and your friend's parents might
not appreciate outside interference. What you can do is
help with her studies such as sharing the lessons you get
from your tutor or planning to study together. If your tutor
comes to your house maybe she can join you for certain days.
Perhaps her school teacher should talk to her parents --
perhaps then they might understand.