I am a third year student of Chittagong University. Two
years ago I went to my elder brother's house and met a girl.
I don't know the definition of a beautiful girl, but in
my eyes she is the most beautiful. Three months ago we expressed
our feelings for each other and fell deeply in love, but
a problem has arisen. Her parents want to get her married
off to someone else. I cannot think about anything without
her. Please tell me what I should do?
Can't Think, Chittagong
If you both are serious then nothing should stop you from
being with each other. If she is so deeply in love then
she must have the courage to face her father and convince
him that you are the right person for her. She must also
be able to withstand any opposition that comes her way.
The strength of your relationship is the most important
factor. Please remember it is very rare that parents will
force a daughter to get married against her will.
I'm a student of RU. My father is a poor man. So I'm suffering
from financial problem. A neighbour in our village has offered
me to marry his daughter. If I marry his daughter, he will
bear all my financial demand. My father also agrees, but
I'm thinking about my prestige. What can I do? Please help
Financial situations force many people to take decisions
that they later regret. This might be one of those decisions.
Marriage is a very serious business and although the financial
factor is important, there is nothing more tragic than an
unhappy marriage. You might try to meet the girl and find
out if someone like her will make you happy. Moreover, she
should also have a say in this matter. It is difficult for
me to understand how desperate your situation is, but this
kind of deal seldom works.
I am twenty-eight years old and have been in love with a
beautiful girl for a long time. Once upon a time she loved
me too, even allowing me to get physical. Unfortunately
she is now in love with someone else and is ignoring my
love for her. I do not understand how she can love someone
else after allowing me to get so intimate with her. I know
I can expose her and she will be forced to be mine, but
I would never resort to such heartless actions, because
she also happens to be the daughter of my teacher, whom
I love with all my heart. It is impossible for me to forget
her. Please tell me how I can win her love again without
This might sound very heartless, but if she has fallen in
love with somebody else then there is nothing much you can
do. The only way to win love is to give love but only when
this love is welcome. Your decision not to exploit her is
very matured and perhaps that might create a little feelings
in her for you. Although it is very difficult to accept,
but people change due to a number of reasons. In her case
she might have found someone who she thinks is better suited
to her. This is sad and unfair but as I said there is little
you can do except extend your hand of friendship.