I'm 27 years old and am working in a private firm. I
love a 20-year-old woman who has passed her H.S.C. exams
this year. I've never told her how I felt because of fear.
I go to her house almost everyday and talk to her over the
phone as well. Whenever I go to her home she takes care
of me. I am afraid that she might say no if I propose to
her. If she refuses I would be in trouble as our families
have good relationship. I really love her very much. What
should I do now? Please help me.
think I answered this question last time.
I am a student of Hons final year at Jagganath University
and am the only son of my family. Recently a girl of class
nine expressed her love for me, and I also love her. She
is very beautiful but is the victim of an incurable disease,
blood cancer. Because there was no proper scope of meeting
with her I sent her letters, photos and gifts once in a
while. The problem is that our families don't get along.
Our families -- especially my parents would never accept
this relationship, and it may further aggravate the situation
between our families. I have to give her up, but she refuses
to give me up. What can I do?
Hope of answer, Dhaka
First of all, a relationship between a young man in
Honours Final year and a girl of class nine is totally unacceptable.
She is too young to take any decision of such a serious
nature. Moreover her illness makes her especially vulnerable.
You must try to get out of this and explain to her that
it will not work. She needs help from her family to overcome
the serious constraint in her life. Getting involved with
you will further complicate things.
There was once a girl whose smile used to end all my
sorrows. For the last five years I made all my dreams and
future plans around her. Suddenly, however, a wind of change
came and took her away from me. I lost her. She started
behaving in a different way -- finding many problems within
our relationship. For the sake of my love I tried to solve
them but she finally gave me the ultimatum that I have to
leave my mother if I wanted to make her mine. I had to say
no and she then gave me back the engagement ring I had given
to her. I realise this is my fate but I don't know whether
she can give me back five years of my life. Please help
me get over this.
Nobody can give back time which has gone by. You have
to be philosophical about it. Just think of the nice memories
you have of the relationship. But then all relationships
are not meant to last, this one was just not for you. It
must be very painful but you will have to accept it. People
change over time, perhaps she realised for some reason that
you were not right for each other. Whatever the reason might
be, it is time to look ahead and not delve in the past.
Keep a positive attitude and many happy and good things
will come your way.
I am a twenty-three year old studying psychology. I
love a guy who is a third year in my subject. My problem
is that although he is educationally senior he is two years
younger than me. I am always worried about our future but
I know he loves me very much.
Ms Sufferer, Dhaka
There is no hard and fast rule that if a boy is younger
by few years then your future will be bleak. We know of
many happy couples with age difference either way. The important
thing is to make sure that you both are suitable for each
other. Make sure that he is ready mentally and is mature
enough to take the responsibility of a serious relationship.
If you are confident about this then a slight difference
in age will not matter.