I am a student of LBA University (London Business Academic).
When I was in class XII I, fell in love with a girl who
is 3 months senior to me. Although that was a great problem
for me I told her that I loved her. She wanted 20 days in
order to make a decision. After 20 days she agreed to my
proposal. When I passed HSC my problems increased. I am
passing a critical juncture of my life because I have to
leave my country within a month. According to my father,
I have to complete BBA and MBA. I think I will lose her
love if I leave her now. You know 'love is made in heaven'
and I do not want to lose her. What should I do? Should
I elope with her?
If your love is strong then you should not lose it so easily
and moreover, that kind of love is certainly not made in
heaven. Eloping is not a solution as both of you are too
young to take on the responsibility of marriage. If you
have to leave the country for higher studies then so be
it. She should continue with her studies and when the right
time comes and both of you are still interested then you
will get married. You might not like my advice, but at your
age this is the only one I can give.
I am 16 studying at DC and do not like people smoking around
me. Nevertheless I have to suffer this problem almost every
day while going to college and returning home by bus because
of people who are always on the bus. They seem to be trying
to make the bus a gas chamber without any consideration
for other passengers. If they are asked to smoke outside
the bus or give up the bad habit they behave as if they
were approved by the government to carry on this filthy
habit. How can I make the man sitting next to me stop smoking
without being quarrelsome and starting an argument?
The best way would be to tell this person politely to stop
smoking on the bus. If this does not work then change your
seat and sit somewhere far. If that is not possible then
you could complain. There is a lot of awareness now about
the ill effects of smoking. You might get a lot of support
from your fellow passengers. Moreover, everyone who smoke
are not necessarily rude people out to spoil your environment.
They should be told and I believe most will comply with
recently ended my four-year relationship with the love of
my life. He would not give me any guarantee for our future
and whenever I brought the issue up, he insisted that I
was pressuring him. I am not a young girl anymore and cannot
wait for a person who is not willing to give me full commitment
and security. I ended our relationship and he acted like
it was nothing to him either way. How do I start moving
on now that I have left him? How do I get over the hurt
caused by his indifference? Am I just a nobody?
Absolutely not, you are somebody and must believe that.
You are a person with dignity and pride who has taken the
right decision. You have to look ahead and feel blessed
that you had the courage to end a relationship which was
not going anywhere. You must turn the hurt inside into something
positive. Show him and the rest of the world that you took
the right decision and that however painful it might be,
you will emerge stronger.
You always try to solve your readers problems by giving
advice. But when you face a problem what do you do? Do you
take help writing your problem to anyone?
Thank you for the concern. Like everyone else I have problems.
However, I am blessed to have a wonderful family who help
me out. If ever I have problems where I think professional
help will be required I will not hesitate to seek it. There
is no shame to ask for help. As human beings and as social
animals we all need help at some stage of our lives. Some
go to friends, others to family and some like my dear readers
come to Mita. Remember, I am here because you all want me
to be here. If there was no you there would no Mita.