I'm a 1st Year English Honours student. I want to be able
to adjust with everyone around me, but I can't quite seem
to do it. My classmates think I'm conceited and don't like
me. What should I do?
I am sure that you are not conceited at all. You might be
shy and perhaps not very comfortable soicialising with others.
There are many ways to get over this problem. Try to befriend
one person that you have something in common with. Take
his/her help to identify the problems you are facing in
terms of adjusting. There might be some very simple solutions.
Secondly keep an open mind about other people, do not judge
them too easily and think positively.
I'm a 2nd Year Political Science student at DU. In my first
year here, I fell in love with a beautiful girl. But when
I was about to tell her about my feelings, I found out she
is Hindu. I'm Muslim. What if I propose to her but she turns
me down because of our religious difference? What should
Before you propose you should get to know her better. She
might say no to you for others reasons also. Find out if
she is at all interested in getting into a serious relationship
with you. Religion is a serious factor and is sometimes
too much of an obstacle to overcome. You must be prepared
for all the consequences before you commit yourself to this
a 19-year-old college student. I'm very interested in the
Hebrew language and in Jews and their culture. Though they
are generally not very popular among most, no one can deny
their genius either. The Israel-Palestine conflict, the
Jewish control over world business is very important, and
because I also want to do business with them, it is important
for me to know the language. But I live in Khulna and don't
know where I can go to learn. Whenever I ask anyone they
think I'm joking. Please help.
--A man in darkness
I am sorry but I am unable to help you. You might thinking
of looking up the web site and get some information.
a 23-year-old, 4th Year medical student. A girl from 1st
Year fell in love with me at first sight some time ago.
I have faced this situation many times before and blew it
off as an infatuation, but I was wrong. She loves me very
much but I don't. I have tried to make her understand this
and that I will marry whoever my family chooses for me,
but I have failed. What should I do?
If you are so sure then you must communicate this to her.
You must make her understand that this will lead to nothing
and will cause her pain. If she just refuses to understand
then there is nothing you can do. Just make sure that people
around you know that you have sincerely tried.
I'm a 19-year-old HSC candidate. In my first year, I fell
in love with one of my classmates. She was very beautiful
and we were madly in love. I couldn't live without her.
But some time ago, her family made her marry someone else.
It didn't last, and she got a divorce within two months.
I want to marry her, but my parents won't accept her, and
if I marry her against their wishes, they will disown me
too. I have to choose between my family and my love. To
make things worse, her family is trying to marry her off
again. I don't know what to do. Please help.
Your letter has confused me. You say you are only 19 and
your girl friend has been married once and is about to be
married again? Well, at 19 you are hardly in a position
to get married your self. If you both are so sure about
your love then you should wait till you are ready to take
this responsibility. She will have to somehow convince her
parents and resist getting married for the second time.
I have said this many times before, parents cannot force
an adult person to get married. It needs a lot of courage
to stand up against ones parents. However, if her love is
true then she will overcome any obstacles and come to you
at the right time.