I am 24 and studying at DU. My problem is that I become
passionate about anything new, that is, new games and activities,
making new friends, taking new classes, etc. At first I'm
always very taken up with it but after a few days I lose
interest. I don't feel like doing it anymore. For example,
when I'm supposed to go somewhere with my friends, I'm all
excited about it and start counting down the days. But as
the day draws nearer I lose all eagerness about it. Going
becomes a punishment and sometimes I even refuse to go.
I get bored very quickly. I can't concentrate on anything.
My life is becoming miserable because of this attitude.
People often think I'm moody but this isn't right. I'm worried
about my future and any long-term relationships I may have.
Please help me.
The fact that you have already identified the problem is
a very positive step. People are usually very reluctant
to admit their shortcomings and therefore solutions are
difficult. You have to work on your attention span deliberately.
First you must analyse why you get excited about something.
Perhaps your analysis will reveal that it was not worth
getting excited about in the first place. The next thing
is to relax and tell your self that even if you get bored
you must pursue things at least times. Finally, I do not
think that this problem cannot be overcome, just remain
confident and positive.
I passed my H.S.C. this year. This girl called D was a very
good friend of mine. We've known each other for a long time.
We went to the same teacher for private tuition. She was
a very good friend but some months ago she told me that
she loves me very much and wants to marry me. I tried to
make her understand that this is not the right time to do
this but she wouldn't understand. Now she isn't talking
to me. How can I get back the friendship I had with her?
Your friend seems to be a little immature. She needs to
grow up and understand that love and friendship, although
close, are two different things. Love can grow and evolve
out of friendship but it cannot be rushed or forced. Please
make her understand that neither are you ready for a long-term
relationship nor have you decided on your long-term partner.
If she still does not understand then you will have to do
without her friendship.
a 23-year-old girl. A few years ago I had sat for my S.S.C.
exam but couldn't pass it. I couldn't continue my studies
after that due to some family problems. Now I have been
admitted to Bangladesh Open University. However, my parents
are forcing me to get married and are making me meet many
men. Some of them liked me but after hearing about my academic
background they back out. What should I do?
23 is not that old at all. You should forget about everything
and get to your studies. If you want to make something of
our life then pick up your books and get serious. Getting
a suitable husband is not the only goal of higher education.
It will take only a couple of years by the end of which
you would have increased your confidence and self esteem.
I am sure you will get a suitable husband in the process.
I'm an M.Com. accounting student at JU. I passed my SSC,
HSC and B.Com. with Second Class degrees. But now I need
financial assistance to continue my studies. Is there anywhere
I can apply for a scholarship or financial aid? Please help.
I am sorry, but I cannot help you. I know that Dhaka University
gives scholarships to very meritorious students. You must
seek advice from someone else on this.