I'm 16 years old. When I was 14, I had a boyfriend in school.
I didn't like him at first because he wasn't good-looking
but when I got to know him as a person, I began to like
him a lot. People also told me that he loved me and that
he would be good for me. After we got together, he changed
schools and a distance grew in our relationship. We still
used to meet, hiding it from my parents who are conservative
and we were also physically involved. After being involved
for 9 months, I didn't see him for 3 months, which later
led to greater distance. Perhaps because I couldn't give
him what he wanted, he dumped me and started going out with
someone who could. Another problem was that he gave his
music more importance than me. I was very depressed about
our break-up. Now I have another boyfriend who is a wonderful
person, but I am going through the same problems again.
He's even crazier about music and this scares me. I'm very
serious about him and want to marry him. I even slept with
him so he wouldn't leave me. He once said that if I get
fat he would love me less. His sister saw my picture and
didn't like me and said bad things about me too. My boyfriends
not rich and will need another 11 years to become established.
What if things change in the meantime? I'm afraid of getting
fat, I'm afraid of his music, of him leaving me. I'm so
scared and confused about my future. Please help.
You are only 16 and not ready to take such serious decisions.
Please take it easy and don't rush. You have many things
to do and attain besides getting married or getting fat.
Please get your priorities right. At this moment, marriage
should be the last thing on your mind. You have to study,
build a career and establish yourself. If this new boyfriend
is nice then let him be and give him space. There is no
need to become an adult before it is time. One has a lifetime
to lead adult lives -- don't start before it is time.
I am about to graduate. I want to earn money. Though I have
been teaching students privately I never got good enough
tuitions to support me financially. How can I get some good
tuitions? What else can I do to make money? Please help.
I am afraid I cannot help you to earn more money. You need
to seek help from friends, teachers, relatives, etc. One
way to get good tuitions is to establish your credentials
as a good teacher, then you will get more students.
am an SSC candidate for the coming exams. My close friend's
brother is getting married and his family is looking for
a suitable girl for him. A few weeks ago, I came to learn
that they want a girl who will give them dowry. I tried
to make my friend understand that this is wrong but he told
me that it is tradition. How can I convince my friend that
dowry is indeed wrong as well as help stop the practice
You are absolutely right. Dowry is wrong and everyone should
work towards ending this terrible practice. It ruins families
and is degrading to the dignity of both men and women. There
is nothing much you can do if your friend does not understand.
You can continue to try but make sure that when you or your
close family members get married this does not happen. This
practice will only end when many people in society raise
their voices against it and teach children from a young
age that this is wrong.