I have a problem. I have been dating a girl for the last
two months. We get along well and I really like her. However,
she has been sending me mixed messages. Sometimes she is
really sweet and caring and sometimes she ignores me and
won't call me for days. I understand that she is confused
and so I am giving her the break she needs. Recently a new
development has presented itself. She told me that she really
liked her manservant and found him attractive and good looking.
Now I really like this girl, but this, to me, is highly
disturbing! What should I do?
Before getting so repulsed find out what she means. It might
be something silly and she did not mean it in any serious
way. She might not be ready for a long term commitment with
you and is sending signals in strange ways. Whatever the
reason for her behaviour, she is clearly immature and someone
who needs more time to make up her mind.
I need your help very desperately. I don't know how to tell
my mother and father that I am gay. I am in love with a
man from NSU. He also loves me but we are afraid to tell
our parents, or for that matter, even our friends. I have
heard that men in USA can legally get married and live happily
ever after. Why can't we be accepted for what we are? Please
I am afraid I cannot help you much. The social and religious
bias against this is so strong that it is almost impossible
to accept this phenomenon normally. You have to realise
that this is Bangladesh and not the USA. Please talk to
someone who you both trust and respect and who respects
you for what you are. I really cannot offer much advise.
am an English teacher at a reputed school. I earn my living
with a small income that I get from teaching. Recently,
I fell in love with one of my students. Unable to control
my strong sexual desire, I kissed her. Now she threatens
me that she'll complain to the institution's principal.
Ultimately I'll lose my job. Please suggest something to
help me out of this problem.
I cannot help you as you have overstepped a line dividing
decency and obnoxious behaviour. You have also breached
the trust of parents and the institution that you work in.
I honestly believe that you deserve to lose your job. This
might have a very averse effect on your life. However, you
should have known better. Saying that you could not control
yourself is no excuse. What you have done is defined as
"sexual harassment" and cannot be excised.
I'm 26 years old. I recently passed my M.S.S. and have been
applying to various organisations for jobs. I fill up all
the documents very carefully but I do not get any interview
calls. This really frustrates me. I don't usually share
my frustration with my family because I don't want them
to think lowly of me, but I have become very depressed.
I don't know what to do. Please help.
I know this is hard. However, remember the first job is
always hard to get. Most organisations want experienced
people and how does a person gain experience without getting
a job! Please be patient and go on applying, sooner or later
it will work out. I am sure that your family will not think
less of you because they know that you are trying hard.