I'm a student of Notre Dame College living in a mess. My roommate
is my total opposite. His family is well-off and he's not serious
in his studies. He's more absorbed in indecent books and magazines
and teasing girls living in the nearby flat. He wants to involve
me in his activities and is always disturbing me. I can move
any time, but our families are on good terms, which I don't
want to spoil. How can I stop him from bothering me.
In such matters there should be no hesitation in your decision.
You should tell him outright that you do not appreciate his
activities and if he does not mend his ways then you will move
out. It does not matter if your families are on good terms.
Knowing him I am sure that they will understand and will not
blame you for it. Learning to cope with different kinds of situations
is a part of growing up. Some decisions are not pleasant but
are, however, necessary. The sooner you take them the better.
I'm a 17-year-old girl studying at a reputed school in Noakhali.
I have been in love with my cousin, who studies at Chittagong
University, for four years. We have a good relationship and
I have always tried to express my feelings to him. Judging from
his behaviour, I thought he loved me too. Last March, when he
came home, I told him about my feelings but he rejected me saying
it was impossible for him. But as far as I know, he's still
not involved with anyone else. I can't think of anyone but him.
What can I do?
A relationship can only flourish if two people are in consent
about it. If for some reason he does not love you then you will
have to accept it gracefully. Just because he is not involved
with anyone does not indicate that he is available for you.
Moreover, he never made any commitment to you, it was your perception
and you might have been mistaken. I know that this is not very
pleasant but sometimes it is better to face reality quickly
and move ahead. You must put this behind you as soon as possible,
I am sure that future will bring many pleasant surprises for
I am 20, studying geography at the University of Dhaka and am
about to sit for my First Year final exams. A close relative
has made it known that he intends for me to marry his daughter.
This girl is a bright and talented student of Class 6 who is
good-looking as well. She comes from a good family and my own
family will agree to the proposal. The problem is that she is
much younger than me, not less than eight years. I don't know
whether it will be right of me to agree to this proposal. Please
Even you are too young to take decisions on marriage. In this
day and age any suggestion of marriage with a girl of Class
6 should be totally discouraged. It does not matter at all if
she is from a good family, is good looking or bright. The simple
fact is that she is too young. Please do not get involved in
such serious matters. You still have far to go and lots to accomplish
before you take decisions about your life partner.