I am my parents' first child. I used to have a brother and
a sister but my younger brother passed away in June of this
year and I am now my parents' only son. I have just given
my HSC exams and am taking private tuition for my university
admission tests, for which I have to go out four times a week.
But my parents always worry whenever I go out, especially
after the August 21 incident which has made it difficult for
me to go out. I have talked to my friends about it, but they
haven't really been able to help. What can I do?
Security has become a big concern for most people and
more so for parents. Your parents cannot be blamed for being
so concerned about your safety. However, they have to be assured
that you will be safe and will be careful wherever you go.
I am sure they want you to do well in your admission tests,
therefore, take some time to reassure them that you will be
okay. Keep them informed about where you are going and when
you will be back. Make sure that you return at the right time
and inform them if you cannot. Gradually, your parents will
start to feel secure about letting you go out.
I am an HSC student at MC College. I like music, especially
the violin, and am learning how to play it. But my father
dislikes music and I have to practically sneak to my violin
teacher's. I also don't have a place to practise as my father
is always home. What can I do to learn music properly and
You should talk to your father and explain why music is
important to you. Also convince him that this will not hamper
your studies. Perhaps your mother can help or your brothers
and sisters. Please do not worry about this too much. If you
are determined to pursue this then you will surely find a
way. Your father will eventually learn to accept it.
I am a 24-year-old man. I have recently graduated from DU
and will soon be going abroad to do my Masters. I have been
involved with one of my classmates for the last three and
a half years. Our first year together, we were deeply in love
and very happy. But things have changed a lot since then.
I started to lose my attraction towards her but we remained
involved, probably because of my physical desire. But in the
last few months, I feel very irritated by her. I don't enjoy
her company or even talking to her on the phone. I'm really
bored with her. But the problem is that she still loves me
like she used to. I want to break up with her but she doesn't
and I don't want to dump her either. But I can't bear to continue
this relationship. What should I do?
People do fall out of love and the world does not end.
You must try to communicate your real feelings to her and
how they have changed. There is no point in carrying on a
relationship when one partner is not interested anymore. It
is unfortunate that one of the two persons suffers and is
the victim. However, in the long-term perspective, it is better
to break it off now than to suffer a lifetime of unhappiness.
Please remember that you have to do this with the utmost sensitivity
and respect towards her.
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