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Dear Mita,
I'm extremely frustrated with my life. Though I have good academic results, I still don't have a job as I don't have any good connections. I feel like I'm going to be a burden on my family. I'm not poor but I do want to establish myself as a worthy member of society and I also feel that I have the ability to do something for my country. I just don't have the opportunity to do so. What can I do to get rid of this frustration and get a job?

Dear Destitute,
Calling yourself destitute is part of your problem. An educated young man with reasonable family resources should not and cannot be called a destitute. You need to look around you and then count your blessings. You have received the best this society can provide yet you are frustrated. What you should do is just decide that this situation cannot be permitted and set your mind to getting a job. There is nothing one cannot achieve without hard work and determination. The important thing is to set yours mind to it.

Dear Mita,
I'm an MA final year English student. There's this boy who likes me but we've never spoken. I don't care for him. As a result, he has started to smoke and gamble. What should I do? I would like to say that he's not right for me at all.

Dear KNB,
What he does with his life is his problem. Since you are not friends and have no relationship with him there is no reason for you to get perturbed about it. Please ignore it as this has nothing to do with you.

Dear Mita,
I'm a shy boy and have trouble talking to girls I don't know. I only like hanging out with my guy friends. But one of my teachers has advised me not to avoid girls as one of them will end up being my life-partner. He also told me the good things about having female friends. But it's difficult for me to make female friends. Should I?

Dear Hopeful,
You should of course make female friends as this is another part of growing up. Being shy is also normal as most young people do not come from co-educational background and are not used to talking to girls. Once you start to make female friends this shyness will go but you have to proceed slowly. Don't rush into relationships that will make you regret. Make friends with girls who are more like you and will be sensitive to your personality.




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