I'm extremely frustrated with my life. Though I have good
academic results, I still don't have a job as I don't have
any good connections. I feel like I'm going to be a burden
on my family. I'm not poor but I do want to establish myself
as a worthy member of society and I also feel that I have
the ability to do something for my country. I just don't have
the opportunity to do so. What can I do to get rid of this
frustration and get a job?
Calling yourself destitute is part of your problem. An
educated young man with reasonable family resources should
not and cannot be called a destitute. You need to look around
you and then count your blessings. You have received the best
this society can provide yet you are frustrated. What you
should do is just decide that this situation cannot be permitted
and set your mind to getting a job. There is nothing one cannot
achieve without hard work and determination. The important
thing is to set yours mind to it.
I'm an MA final year English student. There's this boy who
likes me but we've never spoken. I don't care for him. As
a result, he has started to smoke and gamble. What should
I do? I would like to say that he's not right for me at all.
What he does with his life is his problem. Since you are
not friends and have no relationship with him there is no
reason for you to get perturbed about it. Please ignore it
as this has nothing to do with you.
I'm a shy boy and have trouble talking to girls I don't know.
I only like hanging out with my guy friends. But one of my
teachers has advised me not to avoid girls as one of them
will end up being my life-partner. He also told me the good
things about having female friends. But it's difficult for
me to make female friends. Should I?
You should of course make female friends as this is another
part of growing up. Being shy is also normal as most young
people do not come from co-educational background and are
not used to talking to girls. Once you start to make female
friends this shyness will go but you have to proceed slowly.
Don't rush into relationships that will make you regret. Make
friends with girls who are more like you and will be sensitive
to your personality.
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