I'm a married woman. My problem is that my husband doesn't
let me hang out with my friends. I had many close friends
at university when I was single. But now I'm a laughing-stock
because my husband doesn't like my lifestyle. He tortures
me because of this. What should I do? Please help me.
Marriage is a complex institution which needs constant
nurturing from both the wife and the husband. If there exists
misunderstanding about some fundamental things such as freedom
of making friends then I think there is trouble ahead. I did
not understand what you meant by he "tortures" you.
If he does indeed torture you as we understand the word then
you need to take a very serious look at your relationship.
Normally, such a situation arises when one person is overly
jealous and possessive. However, most problems can be solved
through good communication, given there is basic love and
respect between the couple. You should therefore start to
communicate effectively and make it very clear there are some
fundamentals that you cannot compromise with and one of them
is being able to make friends and spend some time with them.
I know this will not be easy but sometimes one has to take
I have just given my HSC exams and should be preparing for
my university admission tests. But I am not at all motivated.
I have lost all self-confidence. I feel as if I won't get
admission anywhere, whether I study or not. I don't even have
a goal or aim. I have no daily routine and just waste time.
I don't even eat or sleep regularly due to laziness. I feel
like my life is going to be wasted. Please help me to prevent
If you were that unmotivated then you would not have written
to me in the first place. This is just a phase and you should
not be so concerned about it. All you need to do is tell yourself
that this situation cannot be permitted any longer. Since
you have identified the problems yourself, I am confident
that you will be able to find a solution also. Moreover, life
is long and you have many more miles to go, so don't lose
heart because the best is yet to come.
I am a law student at Dhaka University. In order to be a good
lawyer one must be an extrovert, but I am the complete opposite.
While other students in my class can exchange their views
easily, I can't, even though I know what to say. I have become
very despondent because of this. What should I do?
You are just suffering from a temporary phase of lack
of confidence. Some people have a problem of expressing themselves.
However, this can be overcome through self confidence and
belief in one's ability. You should not be shy or hesitate
to make mistakes when you speak. Try putting forward your
views even if it makes you nervous. Once you get positive
feedback this will become easy. You need to be around friends,
relatives and classmates who respect you. Slowly, as you gain
self confidence, your speech ability will increase.
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