of the Mind
Reeve spoke about his paralysis in an interview with the BBC
just before he died recently. He said that paralysis was a
conscious choice and that it was more tragic to have a paralysed
mind than a paralysed body. "My body might be paralysed
but my mind is always working, thinking and doing. I have
seen people walking around with their mind paralysed by lack
of self-esteem, depression from feelings of inferiority and
unable to go after their dreams."
does that ring when you read the Mita column every Friday
in the SWM? There are hundreds of thousands of people all
over the country who want to be able to reach their goals
without complication or adversity.
person wants to get into a good university, but because his
parents are unable to afford a good coaching centre for him,
he loses interest in studying. If only he had realised that
not only would it boost his self-confidence but his peers
would also respect him more if he studied by himself and thereby
succeeded in getting into a good university.
has lost all interest in life because her boyfriend of two
years has left her for someone else. She should realise that
no person is important enough to make her life worthless.
If her boyfriend didn't care about her feelings then surely
she must be better off without him.
that adolescence does bring an onslaught of all kinds of negative
and over-active emotions concerning image and self-confidence.
Although parents are now more aware about this phase of life,
there is very little anyone can do to it any easier.
we get depressed simply because there is nothing to do. If
you have seen the film 'Bihongo' (the true story of physically
challenged individuals at CRP) you should see that there is
something very important to learn from the paralysed girl
who paints with her mouth. Shouldn't we feel ashamed of ourselves
in front of her? That we, with our perfectly workable hands
and feet should say such a thing as 'nothing to do'!
depression is indeed a very real problem but there are many
people who get depressed all too easily. I know a girl who
took rat poison just because she did not get a star mark in
her SSCs, although she did very well in all the subjects,
she fell short of a star by 5 points. Was that enough to mark
the end of the world for her? How far can a person go to wallow
sometimes stand directly in the way of an individual's success
when they put too much pressure on their child to become what
they expect him/her to be. It begins very early in life. The
child is always expected to excel at school. This can affect
a person throughout his/her life. As on adult a person would
feel inadequate at whatever he or she does. Sometimes this
can compel the person to feel so negatively that he/she decides
to forfeit his/her dream altogether. Even in many educated
families these days, girls are brought up to think that the
sole purpose of getting a good education is to marry into
a good family. This can immensely hamper a girl's future.
Her career thoughts and thoughts of marrying 'well' interferes
with her ability to achieve her best.
parents are completely supportive of their daughter's career
choice, sometimes it becomes apparent that once the girl gets
married, the in-laws stand in the way of her success. The
in-laws directly or indirectly convey to her the message that
they want their daughter-in-law to take care of the house
and be a good mother. Although most people now understand
that a woman is completely capable of looking after her house
and have a fulfilling career, there are still many who remain
obstinate with their dogmas. This is also a very real problem,
but if one can be inspired by what Christopher Reeve said
about the 'paralysed mind', isn't it much more rewarding to
achieve something when there are hurdles to overcome? It's
much easier to succeed if you're from a family who completely
supports your liberty and to be yourself, in fact a supportive
family sometimes puts more pressure on the individual to achieve
higher. On the other hand in hostile situations it is ones'
strength of mind and unwavering grit that makes ones' success
even more rewarding