Until recently, I've had an extremely close relationship with
my best friend. We've known each other for more than six years
and shared each other's deepest secrets. Our friendship had
become a little shaky when she started going out with a guy
about two years ago, but even that problem was overcome and
I came to be on quite amiable terms with her boyfriend later
on. However, her boyfriend left to study abroad a few months
ago and as we started our A' Levels in a new school, she seemed
to be too obsessed with her new life and new friends, which
apparently has no place for me in it. Now, she is a totally
different person who is definitely not the girl who was my
best friend for so many years. Of late, we have been deliberately
successful in hurting each other's feelings and I can't take
this anymore. So I've decided to completely exclude her from
my system . . . But it's hard . . . How do I do it?
Friendship is mutual and voluntary. It cannot be forced
or imposed. If for some reason she has lost interest and does
not want to be your friend anymore, then let her go. She has
the right to choose her friends just as you have. In fact,
instead of trying to hurt her, you should ignore her and pretend
that her silly behaviour is not affecting you. There is a
chance that she might realise her mistake and come back. However,
if she does not then you must accept it and look for other
I live in a village in Brahminbaria which has been terribly
damaged by the recent floods, the worst in many years. We
are suffering due to lack of food and medical treatment. A
nearby village which, has not been damaged as much, however,
is getting more aid than us with the help of some influential
people. We need psychological as well as economic support
in order to start rebuilding our lives. How do we do this?
In our country everything happens with the aid of influential
people. You have to identify somebody with influence and request
him/her to assist your village. You should also go and meet
the UNO and the DC and insist that your village needs help.
Try to find out what NGOs are working in your area, perhaps
they can also help.
I am a 3rd year physics student at Chittagong University.
I am having some difficulty with my faculty members. Most
of the senior professors, I feel, are unable to teach. They
simply come to class with a notebook from which they write
everything on to the blackboard. They do not deal with important
and current topics but keep discussing the traditional ones.
They seem to have little idea about the grading system curriculum
and teaching process. But when it comes to exams, formulating
question and assigning grades, they are very strict. Most
of us students are frustrated with our low grades. Is there
anything we can do about our faculty?
Gravely Frustrated K
I wish there was something I could say that would help.
Often students are victims of bad teaching and there is nothing
one can do. Perhaps you could collectively approach some higher
authority and make a complaint, although I do not know how
helpful that will be. The other alternative is to get private
coaching from someone else.
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