I am an O' Level student. I like a girl who studies at the
same coaching centre as me, but in a different batch. She
is a unique person. But I'm very shy about approaching her.
Her mother is always with her and I hardly get a chance to
talk to her. How can I communicate with her?
If you are interested in starting a friendship then you should
talk to her with some excuse. If she shows any interest then
you may continue. It is very natural to be shy at your age
especially when it concerns girls. I am sure as you grow older
you will get over this temporary phase. Since her mother has
allowed her to study in a co-education system I am sure she
will not mind you talking to her.
My family consists of my parents and elder brother. I deeply
long for a sister but have none. I have a few cousins but
they are all rather "over-smart" and garrulous.
Only one is the way I picture my sister and I have her on
a pedestal. But she hardly notices this. On the other hand,
we have a bunch of guardians who misunderstand our relationship
(even though my cousin is four years my senior). What should
I do now?
A Wretched Brother
It is rare for a person to long for a sister. Most young men
prefer a brother to a sister and therefore you must be very
unique. You have to demonstrate to your guardians that you
admire your cousin and the relationship is purely one of a
brother and sister. Meanwhile, you also need to outgrow the
need for a sister and look for other relationships. You should
meet people outside your family and develop friendships with
both men and women closer to your age. As you grow older,
you will find other relationships much more interesting and
you longing for a sister will slowly fade away.
I have two friends. The three of us spent many good times
together. But recently, things have changed. One of my friends
does not spend as much time with us anymore and seems bored
when he does. What's puzzling is that he has quite a jolly
time with his other friends. He just seems to want to get
away from us. What should we do?
These are some hard realities that you have to face as you
grow older. The most important one is to realise and accept
that most friendships do not last forever. People change as
do priorities, preferences and interests. Your friend may
have outgrown this relationship and is interested in a different
set of friends. This is not necessarily bad or unusual. There
is no need to see this negatively. It is nobody's fault, it
is just that priorities for your friend has changed. The sooner
you accept this the easier it will be for you to make new
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