I am a 23-year-old business student . I have completed my
BBA degree and am pursuing a MBA. The business world is quite
competitive and strong communication and inter-personal skills
are a must to develop a career in this field. But I have a
stammering problem. I can't communicate with ease. Now it
seems to me that I have chosen a wrong career path but I can't
walk away from this right now. I have been suffering from
sheer mental torture. To make things worse, my family is not
co-operating with me. They think that I am quite okay and
that all of this is just the imagination of my nervous mind.
Please Don't tell me to talk to them as I have done so on
several occasions. Please advise me on what to do.
First, I do not believe that you are ill-fated. Anyone who
has the ability or the means to pursue an MBA degree cannot
be ill fated. Please count your blessings and learn to cope
with this adverse situation. You should get in touch with
a speech therapist and get some advice. Depending how serious
your situation is, he/she might recommend some therapy which
will help. However, the most important thing is to develop
self-confidence and self-belief. I know of many people who
have been successful in a variety of professions with a stammer.
Perhaps they are going about it the wrong way but your family
is only trying to help by downplaying the problem. Continue
to talk with them and your friends.
My parents are over cautious. They don't allow me to watch
movies even though I am a college student. They think that
vulgar scenes in movies can corrupt me! They don't even allow
me to go out with my friends. Sometimes they also say that
there is no reason to have friends! So they don't allow me
to receive my friends' phone calls and my friends always get
me wrong. What should I do about my parents?
The only thing you can do is talk to your parents about how
the world has changed and that some of their values are no
longer relevant. Try to bring home some good movies and watch
it with them. Keep your communications open and they will
I have a very strange problem. I hate smoking or any kind
of addiction but my parents think that I am an addict. Just
a year ago, they took me to a doctor for check-up. The doctor
thought that I was alright. My parents were happy at that
time but now they are again suspecting that I am an addict.
This kind of unreasonable suspicion is making my life unbearable
. What should I do now?
Your parents must have some reason to believe that you are
an addict. It is your job to convince them that you are not.
If you behave in a responsible, disciplined way then they
will have no reason to suspect you. Perhaps there is something
in your lifestyle that they don't like. Please talk to them
about it and find the basis of their suspicion.
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