I am suffering from a strange problem. I am always jealous
of my friends. I know it's quite normal to have a little bit
of jealousy among friends. But I think my jealousy and selfishness
has reached an extreme level. For instance, one of my friends
bought a cell phone what was more expensive than mine. I became
jealous and got a new, even more expensive cell because I
had begun to envy him so much that it began to affect my friendship
with him. But he is my best friend. There have been many other
such instances. I'm beginning to worry because if I continue
like this, I won't be able to have any good relationships,
with friend or family. Please help me.
You are absolutely right. If you continue in this way then
you will not have any friends left. There is no scope for
such jealousy in friendships. A little competition is healthy
but should not take the form of jealousy. Please address this
problem, talk to a close friend about it and work on it consciously.
Think about the values of generosity, of forgiveness and unselfishness.
Believe me, there is more satisfaction in giving than taking.
However, since you have identified the problem, I am sure
you will find a solution to it.
I'm 19. I met a girl a few months ago at a coaching centre.
I have a huge crush on her. Maybe this is love, I don't know.
But whatever she does fills my heart with great and unexplainable
joy. I'm completely falling for this girl. But in doing so,
I always fear the thought of rejection. I'm feeling insecure
for the first time in my life. I'm finding it difficult even
to speak to her. Is something wrong with me? I'm free with
every other girl in my batch, but whenever I try to talk to
her, I just act clueless. Am I being paranoid? I can't concentrate
on anything. What should I do?
It is not very unusual to feel flustered in the presence of
someone you are falling for. Actually you are trying too hard
to impress her which is leading to your behaving in an unusual
manner. I don't think that you are being paranoid at all.
You are experiencing new feelings and emotions which are difficult
to understand. This is normal so don't worry about it.
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