I have completed my MSc from a public university and have
been working for a renowned organisation for the past three
years. My family is pressurising me to get married, but I'm
not interested right now. I want to go abroad for a higher
degree which is crucial for my career. What should I do?
It is not a good idea to get married out of family pressure.
Please explain to your family that at present you have other
priorities. If you communicate your points well and with conviction
then I am sure they will understand and stop pressurising
you. You should understand that parents want the best for
their children, in this situation they need to be taken into
confidence regarding your life goals and ambitions. I am certain
they will understand.
I'm a student of statistics at SUST. I will be done with my
MSc in six months. If I do a thesis however which not many
students have the opportunity to do, I have to wait another
six months, because, according to the rules of my department,
thesis papers are submitted only six months after the completion
of MSc. I am from a needy family and my family members are
waiting for my financial contribution to the household. An
extra six months, and a total of six and a half years to complete
my MSc is going to cost my family a lot. This is important
for higher studies and getting good jobs. I'll have to register
for it soon and must take a final decision. What should I
Although the financial situation of your family is a very
important factor, you should still go ahead and do your thesis.
It is a matter of a few months and will eventually mean a
lot. Talk to your family and tell them how much you appreciate
their support but that they must bear with you a little longer.
Hopefully this will increase your job prospects and will look
good on you CV.
I am a girl of 16. I am very sincere about my studies and
an obedient daughter. But I feel that love is also very important.
I am deeply in love with a boy for the last five or six years.
I believe true love can happen only once. The boy loves me
too. We have never talked about it but we can feel it. The
problem is that he is two years younger than me and, moreover,
my cousin's son. What do you think I should do? Should I tell
him about my feelings or not? I love him very much and know
that he is the only one for me because he has everything I
could ask for in a life partner. I can't live without him.
Of course love is very important. In fact, it is the most
important phenomenon in a person's life. However, there is
a time and age for everything. At 16, it is not possible for
you to know or understand what you really want. This is the
age to explore, experiment and also have fun. Tying yourself
down to one relationship is not very clever at this stage.
Keep your options open till you are at least a few years older.
Moreover, the boy you mention is even younger and perhaps
less mature then you. I really do not see any chance of this
working out however much you think you love him.
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