I am 27 and waiting for my MBA results while working. Some
months ago, I became involved with a girl who is about to
give her SSC exams. I come from a middle-class family. My
father passed away 12 years ago. I am my mother's only son
and struggling to get by in life. The girl's father is a
high official and their house rent is equal to my whole
month's salary. I have told her about my situation but she
still wants to marry me. I'm afraid that this may be an
emotional decision on her part and that she may change her
mind once she's older and understands the harsh realities
of life. She is my first love and I care for her very much.
Will she be able to adjust to my life? What should I do?
If she is only about to sit for her SSC then why is she
in a hurry to get married and why for that matter are you
encouraging it? She needs to complete her education, at
least get a basic degree before she thinks of marriage.
The question of whether she can adjust with you will only
come when she is mature enough to take such decisions. At
present she is too young and her decision is based on romantic
notions of love rather then well thought out reasons for
choosing her life partner.
I have just completed my HSCs. My father passed away in
1998 and my sister, who lives in England, had encouraged
me to give my IELTS to go there. My mother also wants this
and has advised me to take private coaching for this as
well as to try and get into university here first, just
in case I don't do well in my IELTS exams and can't go.
But I don't think I can handle both coaching and university
together. What do you think I should do?
I do not understand why you should not be able to handle
coaching and IELTS together. Your mother is being practical
and you should be able to take up the challenge. Since you
are not attending any other classes at this time, I believe
you should be able to make the time to do both.
I'm studying computer science at a private university. I
know I need to study a lot but I just can't, and, as a result,
I don't do well in my exams. I'm not romantically involved
and have no family problems. It is some unknown thing that
is ruining my concentration and seriousness in my studies.
How can I focus more on my studies?
Students often go through these phases, therefore, there
is no reason for alarm. However, you must think about it
very carefully and somehow identify why this is happening.
You also need to get motivated about yourself, your life
and ambitions. As you know, the world is becoming more and
more competitive. Anyone who falls behind has to pay a big
price and finds it difficult to catch up again. Therefore,
pull up your socks, tell yourself that there is nothing
wrong with you and get to work. Set some realistic goals
and work towards them.
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