I am 22 and studying English at a private university. I
had an extremely close relationship with my best friend
"T". We met at university. We shared each other's
deepest secrets and were known for our closeness. Without
any apparent reason, she started avoiding me and now our
friendship had become a little shaky. She is a totally different
person and not the girl who was my best friend all these
years. I tried to make her understand my feelings through
SMS on her cell but she didn't respond. I want to get those
days back. I really miss her. What should I do?
Please do not get so broken-hearted. Friendships go through
phases and this is just one of them. Try to get to the bottom
of this change of attitude of your friend. She might be
upset with you for something and you are not aware of it.
On the other hand, something else might be troubling her
and she is taking it out on you. If you are such a good
friend then you will have to be patient. I am sure she will
come back to the old friendship soon.
I am a second year English student of Rajshahi University.
At present I am living with my grandmother. My parents live
in a village and our financial situation is not good. After
passing my SSCs from my village high school, I have been
living with my grandmother and bearing my own educational
expenses by tutoring students. But what I earn is not enough
for me, and sometimes, I even have to help out my grandmother
who is also poor. My parents also often ask me for money.
I try to help them the best I can, but they keep pressurising
me. Studying English is also very expensive. Please advise
me as to how I, along with my parents and grandmother, can
There is no simple solution to your problem. These are very
difficult times and the entire family has to be patient
and cooperate till you overcome this crisis period. You
need to work as hard as possible and at the same time think
about your job options in future. Your family must also
stop putting so much pressure on you and, no matter how
hard it is for them, allow you to continue and complete
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