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I am a student of a reputed university. I have a friend who belongs to a rich and well-known family. But recently, she has started telling us that her parents are not her parents but have actually kidnapped her. They have even tried to poison her, she says. She is looking for a good lawyer to file a case against them. She wasn't like this before. Her story can't be true because she looks exactly like her mother and her parents give her everything she wants. She is even spreading stories about our other friends. She has become a laughing stock. I want to help her but how?
Dear Helpless Friend,
Your friend is probably going through some trauma and is not being able to share this with anyone. If you are a close friend then try to penetrate into her thoughts, win her confidence and then try to help her. From what you have written, it seems that she needs psychiatric help. Try to communicate with her family if possible and explain the situation. The family must be made to take responsibility for what is happening to your friend.
I am a BSc student at Noakhali University College under National University and the only son in the family. I am very sincere about my studies, but my family does not want me to continue. They wont me to get a job. There are five members in my family and I worry about them, but I don't know what I should do. Please help.
You must complete your education no matter what the pressure. You will regret any such decision for the rest of your life. If you are concerned about your family members then there are other ways to address them, but certainly not by leaving your studies incomplete. Explain to your parents and family members, I am sure they will understand if you put forward some good logic.
Vocabulary is an indispensable part of learning a language. In an attempt to learn good English, I have been learning words for the past three years and have internalised some 10,000 words. But I still cannot understand all the words in an article, for example, in a newspaper. I am zealous about learning English but my failure bewilders me. How can I succeed? How many words must I learn?
It is not only about memorising words. You must try to understand phrases and the context in which they are written. Otherwise you will always have such problems. Reading books, fiction and non-fictions is the best way to learn. Select easy books first and go on from there. Reading the newspaper regularly will also help. If you do not understand any word then you can always look it up in the dictionary. With your determination, I am sure you will learn to speak, read and write good English some day.
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