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I am in Class 9 and the son of an aristocrat. I have a friend named S. I met her three years ago and we became good friends. Gradually, our friendship turned into love. We were madly in love. Recently, however, she told me that her parents had found a guy for her and they got engaged. I was shocked and then she told me she was just joking. Last week I threw a party and invited her. She came with her husband and introduced me to him. I'm completely baffled and have become sort of abnormal after this. I don't know what to do. Please help.
Are you really sure that you have given me the right information which is, you are only in class 9, that you met this girl when you were in class 6 and fell in love and now this girl who is also in class 9 has a husband!
Has this anything to do with the fact that you are the son of an "aristocrat". Let me tell you, while it is natural for young people to fall in love, there is a place and time for everything. If she is now married then so be it. You must go ahead with your life even if you are the son of an aristocrat. Going ahead with your life means getting an education, making friends, both girls and boys, participating in sports, etc., and having fun generally.
I am a final year Honours student. I'm very frustrated at the present situation of the country, the unemployment problem in particular. You can't seem to get a job without lobbying or bribes. Those involved in student politics also have a better chance of landing a job. Good students don't seem to stand a chance. What do you think and what should I do?
You are right and have every reason to feel frustrated. However, feeling frustrated and giving up cannot be the solution. People like you must resist this trend and prove to everyone that merit and hard work is what makes a person successful. Try to be the best in whatever you do and then see if anyone can stop your success.
Best of luck
I'm a second year college student (science). After passing my SSCs from a village school, I got admission in a college in Chittagong. I used to live with my uncle but because of some problems I later moved into a mess. My roommates are also students, but despite having declared our room a silent zone, my roommates and messmates create a lot of noise, talking to each other or their guests. My father is not very well-off and I have to stay in the mess. I raised the issue at the last mess meeting but failed to solve the problem. This time, during my HSCs, is very important and I am very worried. What should I do?
This is a very difficult situation and you will have to solve this through determination. You must learn to concentrate no matter what the disturbance. You must also try to talk and convince your messmates that their behaviour is actually harmful for their career also. If you have come so far in life I am sure you will be able to overcome this obstacle and come out successful.
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