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Dear Mita,
I am a 26-year-old graduate and have been in a relationship with a girl for the past 6 years. I have fallen deeply in love with her and have asked her to marry me. However, because we come from different religious backgrounds, she has been hesitant to accept my proposal; worried she might hurt her family if she does so. I am a patient and tolerant man and I do not want to upset my family either, but she means too much to me to let her go at this point. Please tell me what I should do.

Dear Optimist,
I know of many happy couples who have come together inspite of religious differences. Admittedly it is a difficult issue to overcome but certainly not impossible. If you both truly love each other and have made up your mind to spend the rest of your lives together then your religious background should not come in the way. Family and friends ultimately accept the inevitable. They might offer resistance in the beginning but will come to terms with it once they are convinced that this is the best choice for both of you.

Dear Mita,
I am an 18-year-old college student. I have been in a long-term relationship with one of my classmates and we are very much in love. Our parents think we are too young for any commitments and are against our relationship but despite all the opposition, we are still going strong. Our relationship has not affected our grades; we are both still very good students and are ambitious about our future careers. The only problem is uncertainty about the future. We don't know what will happen to us from now until we are ready to get married. Is it worth worrying our parents so much over a relationship, which may or may not last?

Dear Uncertain,
It is true that both of you are too young to decide on such an important issue such as marriage. However, it is a positive sign that the relationship has not affected your grades or your ambition to get ahead in life. This is a sign of maturity, which will help you in the future. I agree that there is no need to involve your parents at this stage. Given your age, they might not react too positively. Let things go on as they are and focus your energy on your studies and your future ahead.

Dear Mita,
A few weeks ago, two of my female colleagues cut a lock of my hair without my consent. They are now talking about doing black magic with it. Although I am a skeptic when it comes to these things, their threats have begun to bother me. I have trouble with conflict and have not confronted them about this. Please tell me what to do.
Helpless Young Man

Dear Young Man,
All I can say is don't be silly and get such thoughts out of your head. They are not serious and are just pulling your leg. Have a talk with them and ask them to stop such nonsense.

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