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Getting over 'it’

If you've just had a break-up and are feeling down, you're not alone. Just about everyone experiences a break-up at sometime, and many then have to deal with heartbreak a wave of grief, anger, confusion, low self-esteem, and maybe even jealousy all at once. Millions of poems and songs have been written about having a broken heart and wars have even been fought because of heartbreak. We all go through breakups. They can be rough, and they can be amicable; no matter what, no one really wants to go through them. Breakups are handled differently by different people. If you want to help yourself heal the pain, the first thing you have to do is realize you are worth someone who loves you. You are worth someone who thinks you are beautiful and awesome.

See their faults. Nobody is perfect. The longer you hold on to the idea that this person is perfect, the harder it'll be to get on with your life. It's completely possible that you're idealizing someone just so that you can have a fantasy to hold on to. You should accept that this person is not perfect and definitely not perfect for you -- because the perfect person for you would think as highly of you as you do of them.

Distance yourself. You won't want to, but staying close to someone you want but can't have just isn't healthy. Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, take a complete break from each other immediately after the breakup. Don't call them, don't go places where you know they frequent, and make yourself scarce. Take the time to reflect on your situation and learn more about yourself. That means no seeing each other, no phone calls, no e-mails, no Instant Messaging, and most importantly, but until you feel that you can converse with him/her like a normal person, without an ulterior motive.

Do whatever you can to feel better about yourself. Exercise, Stay active. It's scientifically confirmed that exercise improves your mood, and the distraction will help keep your mind off the situation. Go running outside, maybe with a friend, and think of releasing the anger or sadness with every step. Eat well, take a class, meet people, have fun. Life is too short to spend it pining for someone who doesn't see you for the great person you are! There are those out there who will.

Accept your pain. Have your good long cries if you feel like it. It's okay to be hurt, feel alone, and feel like you have messed up. Accepting responsibility for your mistakes or shortcomings is healthy, but you must also accept that you are a good person, and this is not all one-sided. Of course, a stage of denial is completely natural, but acceptance is the key to being able to begin to move on.

Deal with the hate phase. This is where you want to just scream because you are so angry, even furious. The amount of anger you feel all depends on how bad the split was, there may be feelings of resentment at your ex for wasting your time. You may realize the breakup was inevitable (hindsight will reveal clues you failed to notice at the time). You may even feel like you hate yourself, but let go of that feeling fast! It's a waste of time to be hating and ripping yourself apart over something you no longer have the power to change.

Keep fond memories. Sometimes there are things that remind us of another person. Say, you hear a song or see a picture that reminds you of your ex, you probably get all sad and worked up. Well, instead of feeling that way, turn the station and move on.

Find happiness in other areas of your life. Whether that means spending time with your friends and family, taking up that class you've always wanted to take, or reading every book in the library, remind yourself that there's more to life than being in a relationship. Indulge in those things. As they say, the best revenge is living well.

Do take charge of your life - the world is your oyster. Use your time to alone to focus on yourself and your own goals in life. You'll feel better if you do something extraordinary with your life. Let go. See that there is no sense in still being heartbroken, regretful, and harboring hatred toward that person. Realize that although your relationship with that person was unique and special in a lot of ways, congratulate yourself for being brave enough to take a risk and fall in love, and encourage your heart that even though love didn't work out this time, there will be a next time.

You have to have the nerve to decline their calls, the realization that you are the most important person in your life, not checking their Facebook or Myspace and most importantly, you have to have THE WANT TO MOVE ON...you cannot move on with out letting yourself move on.

Source: wikihow.com
By RK


Myth-box

Perseus - the Slayer of Medusa

Perseus was the hero who killed Medusa and claimed Andromeda, having rescued her from a sea monster. He was the son of Danae (who was a princess) and Zeus (the king of gods). The oracle had prophesised that Danae's son would kill her father, King Acrisius. So the king had Danae imprisoned in a lone dark tower. When Danae grew into a beautiful young woman Zeus took her as his lover (entering the cell as a ray of light) and Danae's son, Perseus was born. King Polydectes demanded the head of Medusa from Perseus at a feast as a gift. The Medusa was a horrible monster that had snakes for hair and if anyone looked into her eyes the person would be turned to stone.

For such a heroic quest, a divine helper would be necessary, and for a long time Perseus wandered aimlessly, without hope of being able to accomplish his mission. Hermes gave him an adamantine curved sword and Athena gave him a highly polished bronze shield. The three nymphs gave him a wallet, winged sandals and the helmet of invisibility. With these enchanted objects he slew Medusa and brought back the head to King Polydectes. On the way back Perseus rescued Andhromeda (the daughter of King Cepheus) and married her.

By Nishita Aurnab


Elevators - things you didn't know

Elevators are a lot more interesting than just devices in which people stand around in awkward silence while someone else lets out a little whiff of last nights dinner. Elevators have related information that will make you look at in a whole different way. Not least because it made you spend 5 minutes reading the following:

The Door Close button is there mostly to give passengers the illusion of control. In elevators built since the early '90s. The button is only enabled in emergency situations with a key held by an authority.

The only known occurence of an elevator car free falling due to a snapped cable (barring fire or structural collapse), was in 1945. A B25 Bomber crashed into the Empire State Building, severing the cables of two elevators. The elevator car on the 75th floor had a woman on it, but she survived due to the 1000 feet of coiled cable of fallen cable below, which lessened the impact.

Elevators are twenty times safer than escalators. There are twenty times more elevators than escalators, but only 1/3 more accidents.

Elevators are also safer than cars. An average of 26 people die in elevators each year in the U.S. There are 26 car deaths every five hours.

Most people who die in elevators are elevator technicians. If you are one, better to take the stairs.

The Otis Elevator Company carries the equivalent of the world's population in their elevators every five days.

The New York Marriott was the first to introduce a smart elevator system that assigned passengers to elevators depending on what floor they were heading to.

Elevators used to require a two-man dispatcher/operator team to function. The advent of navigational buttons rendered those jobs obsolete.

The area required for personal space is 2.3 feet. The average amount on elevators is generally 2 feet.

Elevator hatches are generally bolted shut for safety reasons. In times of elevator crisis, the safest place is inside the elevator.

The myth about jumping just before impact in a falling elevator is just that myth. You can't jump fast enough to counteract the speed of falling. And you wouldn't know when to jump.

Due to the laws of physics, elevators can't be any taller than 1700 feet. Hoist ropes become too heavy after that, snapping at 3200 feet.


Kidz Star

God please help

God please help me
In the quiz
Let me get lovely skills.
Let me write
What is right
Let me draw
Which I have to draw
Let me get
The marks I write to get
God please help me
Let me get lovely skills
By Rivu Bhattacharjee


How fine to live in a castle

How fine to live in a castle
And have many horses and men of my own.

And some day I will put the
Precious crown on my head,
And sit on the throne
By Simona S Siddique


Starry Night

When the starry night
The stars began to fight
Up in the sky,
In the starry night

They took the whole night
To enjoy the fight.

When the sun came
Up in the sky
The stars went to take a nap
Then the birds started to fly

Happy Day

If I saw a bird
Making a card
Will you believe?
But I have seen.

Today is her friend's birthday
They will serve food in a tray
They will have fun and play
Waiting for a happy day

Adventure

It's time to go
Take me so
The adventure never ends
Come, let's go, friends

Everywhere you go
With you I will go
Whatever you do
I will help you

Fly

The birds can fly
On the blue sky
Do you want to try?
Then don't cry

If you be sad
It will be bad
You wont be able to fly
On the blue sky
By Maisha Naz Shayery
Class II

 

 

 


 
 

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