Belle Femme, Femme Fatale
“I think women rule the world and that no man has ever done anything that a woman either hasn't allowed him to do or encouraged him to do." Bob Dylan
The good doctor makes sense! He makes a good point about men being naturally more beautiful. To a woman, a man is considered the fairer sex is it not? We swoon over their physical god like appearance, which is achieved without makeup.
The thing is though, women are not frivolous creatures. Our brains are capable of processing more than just physical appearance. We don't need a man to put on makeup to be attracted to them. Yes, it is fun to ogle at good looking guys, but when it comes down to someone you want to actually be with, it really isn't about physical appearance. It's about personality, about how a guy carries himself. We're generally attracted to guys who're funny, sweet, caring and genuine. We find a certain something about them to be endearing. A man can be the best looking thing on earth to a woman based on only his personality; the looks are just a bonus.
But for those pea-brains, looks are a requirement. And let's face it, while we women are independent, strong, confident in our skins and totally capable of being by ourselves, loneliness kind of sucks. It's much better going through life with a companion. A man won't even look at you twice if you're, as they say, 'ugly'. Guys have even been known to dump girls for not being 'good looking enough' for them.
So is it fair for men to create the standards of how women should look, break down their confidence if they don't look that certain way, and then say 'we're better looking because we don't wear makeup. You are insecure because you do'?
We are smart, we don't use makeup to hide our natural beauty, we use it to enhance it; to express ourselves creatively all the while capturing the attention of a man.
Let's talk about insecurity for a second, are we really the ones who are insecure? We choose to give our male counterparts the illusion of power because we know how a man needs his ego to be stroked. He needs to be the one in charge. The lion may have the mane, but the lioness does the hunting while he just sits on his furry behind. So it's not just us human females, even the animal kingdom has wizened up to the fact that the male needs to feel important. They need to huff and puff around with their showy manes and peacock feathers and silver streaks and feel like they are the kings, while we quietly do all the work and, eventually, take over the world. Are we really the ones who are insecure? Or are we just diabolically smart?
By Musarrat Rahman
The week in re(ar)view
Traffic versus education
Weird math at energy ministry
Connected by cracks
DOB, not quite
Women lawmakers protested this celebration of a fake party in front of the National Press Club in the city. They said this was mean minded. We say the lady leader really likes to have her cake and eat it too.
By Mood Dude and Someone
A night for the Poet
British Council and Journey Communications jointly hosted a cultural event titled “Rabindra Borishone” to commemorate the anniversary of Rabindranath Tagore's passing on the 9th of August at the British Council auditorium. The “borsha”-themed event opened with a performance of members of Surabihar, a music and arts school located at Dhanmondi. This was followed by duets and solo performances by prominent musicians such as Onima Roy and Azizur Rahman Tuhin.
After the mesmerising display of vocal prowess, the Young Learners' Club [YLC] of British Council came to the stage one by one to present poetry recitals and solo songs. The courage with which the young ones took the stage and the flawless execution of their performances are a testament to their hard work and passion. The event was concluded with a viewing of a Choyonika Chowdhury directed Rabindranath Tagore story-turned-drama titled “Dui Bon” or Two Sisters.
The program was conducted with the assistance of Creations Unlimited. Tanveer Tareq Consultancy played the role of the co-ordinator and Radio Today was the media partner.
By Kazim Ibn Sadique
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