No matter whether it's a love or an arranged marriage, till now it takes years for a new bride to adjust with her in-laws. Mostly we behave well with our own daughters, but when a girl of our daughter's age comes into the house as a daughter-in-law, we start finding ill of her. Instead of aiding her to adjust, we just make her life harder. We want her to be 100 per cent perfect.

It's true that the generation is changing. Yet, we can't come out from the habit/practice of criticising the daughter-in-laws. It's okay if our daughters work in the NGOs or big companies and pursue a career. We feel proud of them. But when it is the daughter in laws, we rarely support them to build up their own careers. We just want our daughter-in-laws to sit idle and do only household works.

In my own family, I have noticed that my Khala and Nanu want us to settle down with our own jobs in a respectable career. But they don't want our Mami to do any job who holds a post- graduate degree.

So, considering the contradictions that exist under the same roof, I felt that I should write about this. I belive, we should rescept her as a girl first, then our son's wife. The brides should be also given the respect that the bridegrooms get. There shouldn't be any difference.

Here's a good sign that people of our country are changing their attitude towards their daughter-in-laws. Many families even try to treat their daughter-in-laws just like their daughters. But they are very few in number. Things should change. We should respect our daughter-in-laws and treat them just exactly like our own daughters. Because we all know that fifty percent of our population is women, it's really outrageous if they sit idle after doing Bachelor or Masters just because they are daughter-in-laws.

And, we should get out of the habit of finding ills of our daughter-in-laws and start supporting them from the beginning of their marriages, not after 10 or 15 years.