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It is our parents who are entrusted with the sacred responsibility of endowing us with the greatest values that are imperative to enlighten our life. They do not actually have the option to be negligent about the upbringing of their children, because their unintentional negligence might one day prove to be fatal for themselves. We often find parents miserably lamenting the misfortunes of their children. Many get frustrated to see their only child becoming an incorrigible drug addict or a vicious delinquent. These parents recurrently wonder where actually things went wrong. Perhaps, the answer lies in the fact that these financially better off parents 'unconsciously' failed to fulfill the 'intangible psychological needs' of their children that chiefly consist of unconditional love, warmth, care, and above all a relationship that ensures communication of proper values and a reciprocal trust that makes us believe our parents to be our best companions.

Parents should endeavor to be the trustworthiest companions of their children. This relationship must never be characterized by intimidation, coercion, and misunderstanding. In contrast, this companionship should be based on selfless cooperation, compassion and empathy. Our parents often get so busy in earning money that they fail to look after their children in a proper manner. These people, who claim that they are earning it all for their families, actually take their family and children for granted because the most important need of any child is the warm intimacy of someone who really cares for them. We want our parents to stand by us in our happiness and sorrows, when we face an obscure transition in our adolescences, when we confront intolerable emotional turmoil, when we are depressed and when there is something extremely unique going on inside us. We want them to give us the needed suggestions to cope with these distinctive stages of life by holding our hands firmly. In this case “consciousness” is the key word. Despite being well educated, many of our parents are not conscious enough to understand the significance of this sacred relationship. Many parents often do not care about how their children are growing up. They consider 'growing up' to be a spontaneous process and think that their children will grow up anyway like everyone else if they keep on providing them with the tangible essentials. Factually speaking, most of our parents are unaware of the fact that raising a child requires a full-fledged planning, unique strategies and rigorous efforts. How many of our parents actually sit for a considerable period of time in order to think of the intimate needs of their children, which change in different stages of life? How many of our parents actually try to evaluate the apparent psychological traits of their children at an early age by closely observing their behaviors so that in accordance with their findings they can show them the proper direction. For instance, if a child displays traits of a radical introvert in his very childhood and if his parents can analyze these traits properly at an early stage, then they might be able to socialize him more effectively. Moreover, the quality of the companionship and the circle of friends we mingle with largely depend upon our parents since they construct the blueprint of our social interactions.

Our parents often fail to realize the unique needs of their children and think that whatever the other parents are giving their children is adequate to satisfy a child. That is where things begin to go wrong and the children end up turning into what they were not supposed to be. Human needs vary from one person to another. For instance, a sensitive child needs more personal care and emotional guidance, a shy child needs to build positive self-confidence, and an imaginative child needs creative inspirations, whereas an optimistic child needs orientation to the reality. However, our parents often endeavor to fulfill the typical materialistic needs without properly assessing these crucial psychological needs that actually determine what type of an adult a child will ultimately turn into. Fulfillment of only financial needs, without considering the relevant psychological needs can even become self-destructive as we often see rich brats becoming social menaces or heartless maniacs!

It is a fact that parents and their children represent two different generations. As a result, there is an inevitable dissimilarity between their core values. This gap often creates an evident lack of communication and breach of understanding. However, I think for a remedy both the parents and the children should learn how to respect each other's values and feelings. To achieve that end, our parents should be open to the values of their children. Similarly, the children should also be “taught” to understand and respect the values of their parents. If both can respect the ideal values of the other then both can be enormously benefited. In this way, the parents can win the trust of their children and the children in turn can make their demands more logically justifiable. Our parents often display an odd tendency of imposing their values on the children forcibly, which actually makes the children even more rebellious. Many of them try to take supreme control of their children's lives, which drastically alienates the parents. These misunderstandings create an inexorable distance between parents and their children and lock them in a cold, distrustful relationship. These confusions can only be avoided if parents can be tactful and circumspect enough in communicating with their children, who represent the modern era of liberalism. Apart from the relationship between parents and children, the relationship between parents themselves also seriously affects the psychological and emotional growth of their children. It is an evident fact that children of divorced parents often fail to grow up emotionally and suffer from different psychological dilemmas. Similarly, children who grow up in families where marital conflicts and discriminations are predominant, fail to develop a mature outlook of life.

As a matter of fact, raising a child is an empirical scientific process. None but our parents can make us know ourselves profoundly. They can act as the navigator of our life, which constantly remind us of our goals and our latent abilities. Only our parents can give us the crucial confidence to win the battles of life. Parents in the developed western societies are increasingly becoming aware of the scientific upbringing of their children. Unfortunately, in many underdeveloped societies we still have a tendency to undermine the significance of our responsibilities as parents and suffer the grave consequences, without even realizing the mistakes. Our basic learning process starts in our family, which is the primary component of the broader society. Our parents are essentially responsible for giving us a decent family environment, unwavering guidance and standard values. They must act as our trusted confidants, who can genuinely help us land on the right track. It is undeniable that only sensible parents can raise sensible children. These sensible children turn into discreet adults and good parents themselves who contribute largely to the process of establishing an ideal society.

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Earth, the moon and the sun are all bound together by gravity, which keeps us going around the sun and keeps the moon going around us as it goes through phases. The moon makes a trip around Earth every 29.5 days.

But the orbit is not a perfect circle. One portion is about 31,000 miles (50,000 km) closer to our planet than the farthest part, so the moon's apparent size in the sky changes. Saturday night (Jan. 10) the moon will be at perigee, the closest point to us on this orbit. It will appear about 14 percent bigger in our sky and 30 percent brighter than some other full moons during 2009, according to NASA. (A similar setup occurred in December, making that month's full moon the largest of 2008.)

High tides
Tides will be higher, too. Earth's oceans are pulled by the gravity of the moon and the sun. So when the moon is closer, tides are pulled higher. Scientists call these perigean tides, because they occur when the moon is at or near perigee. (The farthest point on the lunar orbit is called apogee.)

This month's full moon is known as the Wolf Moon from Native American folklore. The full moon's of each month are named. January's is also known as the Old Moon and the Snow Moon.

Source space.com
(It is a week old news but we printed it for the important information)