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The Prince & Me

Farzana Ashraf

DO you remember those days? When we ended up watching my favorite movie 'The Prince & Me'- You said you would be supportive; you said you would love me more than anything; you said you believe in women empowerment; you said you need a life partner rather a person who is entirely a wife; you promised me you will never break my heart; you promised me you would never ask me to give up my individuality. I trusted you… Despite loads of rational restrictions, I moved ahead and held your hands. We decided an evergreen destination for this relationship knowing the fact that it does not take love to get there; what it takes is an indestructible bond of friendship. You seemed so different to me.

But suddenly you turned up to be a so called 'Masculine' figure. You demanded me to be submissive, reliant and entirely house-oriented. You wanted to lock my thoughts, desires and insights. You forgot the fact that I am comprised of my insights; without these I am nothing but a shear only. You forgot your promises. Moreover, you demanded for a dominated wife rather a supporting partner. I was astonished!!! You broke my heart.

I cried in the dark…could not share it with anyone as you were my own preference. I could just ask myself some striking questions that do not have an answer. Why do you people consider us as women only? Why can't you deem the fact that we are also human beings as you are-with a heart full of treasured desires, with a soul that wants to be free, with a mind that also needs personal space to some extent? You seek out the 'Perfect Woman'. But I believe perfect women can only exist in a world supported by perfect men. Of course I am ready to be a Perfect Woman but are you well prepared to be a Perfect Man?

I feel puzzled…How would I change your perception? How would I get back the previous 'YOU' whom I loved truly, madly, deeply? How would I make you realize that I don't want to be superior neither do I want you to be inferior; I don't dream to dominate; I don't want to make you sacrifice all alone? Fairness is the only thing that I am thriving for. I am ready to sacrifice, I am ready to compromise but I want you to be ready as well. I want to support you rather serve you.

I don't know what happened to you…I still believe this is not the real YOU, you just got off track for a while in the horde of masculinity. Darling, would you please answer me one simple question? Asking for your own rights and dreaming of a life that is fully shared is this what 'Feminism' all about? Or it is only a natural crave that every woman cherishes in the deep core of her heart-Our moms are no exception!!!