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Beuty
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Sadia
Moyeen , Beutician, La Belle
Q:
I have got lots of problems. My problems are:
1.Nowadays my hair is becoming oily and sticky. What shall I do about
it?
2.I am very slim but my upper and lower thighs are fat. Can you suggest
anything for it?
3.My leg is wide where my toes are pretty tall. So my legs doesn't suits
my toes. Please help me out. Can you tell me how can I make my hair
long, straight, and silky? Thank you.
A:
Yes I can help you with your hair, but there's not much I can do about
your legs. Wash your hair every other day using a mild shampoo. Once
a week apply lemon juice to the hair before shampooing off. Then apply
conditioner to the length of your hair avoiding the roots.
Q.
I am an 18 year old female and I need your help desperately. I have
had sudden excessive hair loss for only one month (this February). My
hair loss stopped after I cut my hair short and also after I had calcium
tablets for a whole month (this March). Earlier I had thick hair and
now only one-fourth of my hair is left. Is there any way that can help
me get my original volume of hair back? Could you also suggest a remedy
to lighten dark lips? Please note that my lips started to darken gradually
from last year. -Desperate
A:
Your hair has stopped falling, now you must give it sometime to allow
it to grow back to its original volume. You can help it along by applying
a pack with crushed fresh amla, 1tsp oil (any), 1tsp henna powder and
1 egg, every week for 2 months. Apply petroleum jelly with a few drops
of lemon juice to your lips every night before going to bed. Next morning,
apply a little more and using a soft cloth rub gently. This will soften
as well as lighten the lips. Be careful not to use cheap quality lipsticks
whenever possible use a chapstick which has sunscreen in it. Of course
I'm taking it for granted that you don't smoke.
Q:
Dear Sadia
I am a 22-year-old girl. I have a normal skin and my hair is also normal.
I wanted to ask you the benefit of using castor oil for my hair. If
its good then where can I get it from and also how do I use it. Thank
you. -Robin
A:
Dear Robin,
Yes castor oil has its benefits but should be used in small quantities
preferably mixed with another oil like coconut or olive. Since you have
normal hair, which are in good shape, don't experiment too much. Oil
your hair weekly and have deep conditioning treatments professionally
once a month for optimum health.
Q:
I have a lot of dark hair between my chin and neck, which is very visible.
I bleach my facial hair but can you suggest something else for that
area which can lessen the hair growth. If I bleach or remove it becomes
more visible.
A:
Regularly removing the hair can make them more visible. Using hair removing
creams to get rid of them should work well for you. It can be used as
often as you need and you don't have to wait for them to grow too long
before getting rid of them again. If the growth is not too dense then
electrolysis, or permanent hair removal is an option.
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Maheen Khan Fashion designer, Mayasir
Q:
I'm a little heavy on my arms. As much as I love wearing sleeveless
and halter necks after gaining weight I don’t think I look good in them
anymore. Can you suggest some cuts and designs for me (both in kamezes
& westerns wear)?
Yana
A0.
If you are heavy on the arms, you must be pear shaped. I would suggest
you avoid halter tops although you could continue to wear sleeveless,
provided the sleeves are cut from the far end of the shoulder pt. You
will look nicer though if you switch to longer more tapered sleeves,
the lengths can vary from elbow to full sleeves. Wear V-necks on a clean
form fitted cut. Avoid large prints and contrast on suits. Stripes are
always great to elongate your stature. Try it.
Q.
What are some complimentary colours which could be put together for
summer outfits. I am tired of wearing the same old solid colours. Please
suggest.
A.
Every colour has a opposing complimentary colour. If you are looking
for cool hues check out light turquoise and coral, peach and light green,
lavender and pale yellow. These can be used to mix and match pieces.
The colours will pop and create a refreshing illusion.
Q.
I feel most comfortable in cotton outfits, but it is really difficult
to maintain, could you suggest a method where it remains in good condition
over a period of time.
A.
Cotton outfits are great for comfort. But it is evident that in a fairly
short time printed cottons fade in colour and lustre. The key would
be to use light detergents. You should also starch the outfits to provide
stiffness and body. White cottons should always be washed separately
and you can also mix a bleaching element with detergent to get back
the whiteness.
Q.
I am under five tall. It is very difficult for me to find ready-made
garments that fit me well. When the chest fits the top and bottom are
too long or sometimes the length is just right but I can't get into
it. What should I do? Please help.
A.
Ready-made garments are meant for average size persons. Therefore you
really need to buy garments that match your chest size, and then reduce
the body, shoulder and sleeve lengths. You may be a petite size, in
Bangladesh this size is not available off the wrack. if you are very
concerned about your fit I would suggest you make your own custom made
outfits.
Q.
I am a male in my mid twenties. I like to wear kurtas in my leisure
time at home. I find the kurtas in the retail shops too over the top
and garish. I don't like embroidered work. Please tell me how I should
style my kurta.
A.
Kurtas are ideal to lounge around the house and can be equally comfortable
to sleep in, whichever it may be there are a zillion ways to style a
kurta. Here are a few tips.
Round neck with button down front half opening.
Make
sure the buttons match and are fairly small in size.
The cut should be straight not flaired with normal arms.
Use small pleating turning in opposite direction as it runs down the
front and around the opening to create a interesting pattern. Use as
many as six to eight pleats to form a 1" embellishment. Repeat
on sleeve ends.
The length could be over or below your knees.
Use fabric of your choice.
BY
THE WAY
Seeking
Attention
There are some children
who act as clowns in class or home. Did you ever stop to consider what
lies behind the demeanor? Your child may be crying out for help. The
child may be feeling lost and lonely and could be crying out for help
behind the mask of clown. These are children who often do not have many
friends and therefore use humour to attract the attention of others.
Some times they do it to divert attention from their learning difficulties.
These are attention-seeking children who venture into silly pranks asking
for importance. The reason could range from conflict in the home, a
death in the family to some event in the kid’s life that they regards
as more significant than you have perceived.
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UNDER
A DIFFERENT SKY
Afternoons
of a living-dead
Her afternoons
are long here. The sun gets lazy crossing her sky and her eyes get
heavy keeping in track of time, unhurried, ever-stalling moments.
Her afternoon prayer ends with a lunch, left-over rice with some special
curry she prepared the night before, then the rest of the noon lies
in front of her like a piece of difficult reading, the ones too complicated
to comprehend with few pages missing here and there. Her son calls,
he asks, she answers, he listens, or does he? Time is precious to
all but her; her hours make big circles and her minutes long pauses.
The arrangement
was that she would spend half her year with her son here in the suburbs
of New York and the rest of the year at her home in Dhaka. Her son
just out of a divorce needed her by his side. She didn't want to delay
her presence, and it was after a long time that her son had needed
her. The last time she felt such desperation from her son towards
her was when he was just a mere child, when he depended on her for
his life, for food and safety, fulfilling few basic human needs.
Isn't
that what she is doing now? After her son was tired of drive-through
junk food and order-in Chinese dishes it was time for her to fly in.
He wasn't much of a cook, the ex-wife did most of it, and with her
absence the place started looking like an animal farm. Dirty clothes
and unwashed dishes piled up next to each other, unclean bathrooms
and dirty bed sheets. Her son didn't make any effort of pretense at
tidiness. The jungle was waiting for her to be groomed, and upon her
arrival she made it livable again.
Now that
there is no dust to wipe, and now that she has become an essential
part of this couple of thousand square feet her days and nights have
stopped moving. It's not that she misses her life in Dhaka, although
in Dhaka she could go out once in a while if she wished all she had
to do is call a Rickshaw. No such convenience as rickshaws exists
here and when she looks out the window, no ferriwala or street kids
roam around making fusses, just a few squirrels and occasional sparrows,
even they are too civilized to make a ruckus. Her eyes almost wait
for some chaos in the middle of this still and picture-perfect world,
a world too empty like her inside.
You can
not call her son a mama's boy, he is far from it in fact. She is not
sure when they grew apart, but now there is detachment between them,
and being Bengali she was never trained to express her emotions directly,
without tears or without bringing up the sacrifices of the past. The
right way to work out this kind of very invisible and very existent
problems was never taught to her. So she lets it be, the void remains
carrying its faint echo through the dishwasher and laundry machines,
and they sit every evening having dinner just like any other American
family, creating small talks and cold silences.
Her husband
died ten years back. She had a typical Bengali marriage; a marriage
which was based on habits not love. It was like a square which held
no room for expressions and growth and was consumed by duties, obligations,
sacrifices and lonesomeness. Now in her mid-50s she often wonders
what it feels like to be in love or just to have a meaningless relationship,
the ones which only create bliss without much attachment or forgoing.
In this free land she can go out and find herself a date if she wishes
to, she knows it's accepted for older people to have a relationship
and start fresh, it's quite common. Thinking of such things is unthinkable
for a woman of her background and position. A Bengali woman of a certain
age is no longer allowed to think of love, relationship and starting
over, and she knows she is there, where life stops, love stops, only
things which go on are fruitless, shameless imaginations, blank dreams
and hopeless still breathing bodies, like the one she is carrying.
At this
age she has all the wishes but none of the courage of starting fresh.
What can she do? Walk out, seek an odd job and live with roommates
in semi-poverty untying herself from all Bengali traditions and attachments
and search for love in some male 50-year old eyes? She knows that's
only possible in movies and not in her life composed with comprises
and sacrifices and living for others.
So she
continues to breath silently, continues being strong looking weak
and meek. Spending long afternoons in her the stale and still world
her existence dissolves into another insignificant, deceased and forgotten
tale.
By
Iffat Nawaz
*You can contact the writer by emailing nituta@hotmail.com
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