Dear
Mita,
I am an M.Com. student. My mother passed away some days
ago. She was a cancer patient and I had to spend around
Tk. 70,000 for her treatment, all of which I collected in
loans. My father and younger brother live with me. Besides
studying, I work at an NGO for four hours every day for
which I'm paid a monthly salary of Tk. 1500. We don't have
any land or any other sources of income. Now I want to get
myself admitted into the MBA programme at Dhaka University
but I need money for this. How can I collect it? Am I too
ambitious? Please tell me what I can do and how I can get
into DU MBA.
--T
Dear
T,
You are not being overly ambitious at all. You want to go
ahead in life and getting a good education is the best guarantee
for that. I am sorry I do not have any solution for your
problem. You will have to approach you friends and relatives
to get the resources for you MBA. The way is doing brilliantly
in the admission examination and appealing for a scholarship.
Dear
Mita,
I am studying A' Levels at a reputed school in Dhaka. I
have been totally crazy about this girl for the past year
or so. It started off pretty badly. She had broken up with
her boyfriend and I tried to be her "hero" in
disguise and mend her broken heart. We became best friends.
After a month or so, I expressed my feelings for her. She
took it calmly but said she was in no position to go out
with anyone at the moment. I decided to remain patient and
wait. After several months, we started to get a little physical
but we weren't going out! She's not the type of girl who
does these sorts of things but she keeps saying that she
is happy this way and isn't ready for another relationship
right now. No one knows about our relationship -- it's a
pretty "hush hush" affair. Am I right in waiting
to win her officially or should I just move on?
--Messed Up
Dear
Messed Up,
I think it is right to wait as she is obviously not ready
for any serious relationship. I do not think that your "move
on" tactic will work. The best way is to continue to
be her friend and wait till she agrees. Perhaps there are
issues that she wants settled before she commits herself.
Dear
Mita,
I'm
a 23-year-old man with a small job. My problem is that I
have two older, unmarried relatives who don't seem to be
getting married anytime soon. I, on the other hand, want
to get married soon. It is difficult in our rural society
for a man to marry before his elders. He is often criticised
and made fun of. But I don't know how much longer I can
go on like this. How can I solve this problem?
--MAH
Dear
MAH,
These are very old-fashioned ideas. If you feel ready to
take on the responsibility of marriage then you should go
ahead. Your elders must decide for themselves and this should
not determine your life. The important thing is to find
the right partner.
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