The Name
Game
Nadia
Kabir Barb
Have
you ever played the "Name Game"? I am sure you have,
even if you did not realise it. How many times have you met
someone and not remembered their names and then spent the next
few excruciating minutes trying to think of ingenious ways of
trapping them into revealing their identity without allowing
the person in question understand that you have not got the
faintest clue who he or she is. The worst part is when they
obviously know your name (and possibly your entire life history)
and are waiting to be introduced to your spouse, relative, friend
or whomever you happen to be with at the time. "This is
Shar…Nas...Rum… I give up, who are you?" is not the best
way to make yourself popular. There are many people who are
gifted as far as remembering names is concerned. Unfortunately,
I am not one of them. I do remember faces but names are a little
more elusive. So for those of us who find ourselves in this
sad predicament, we have to play this game of "Guess the
Name" time and time again.
If
the person you have thoroughly offended by not recognising them
is a remote acquaintance it is still possible to live with yourself
but what if the person in question is someone you went to school
or college with? Having been hugged and told that you have not
changed a bit, how do you then ask them what their name happens
to be? Claiming that you are suffering from temporary amnesia
is really not a good idea it only works in soap operas. So this
is where the game begins and you find yourself trying to extract
the name without being too obvious. You could play a very subtle
game of twenty questions and see if you can come up with the
answer or you can pull out your dairy or any scrap of paper
you have at hand and ask them to write down their telephone
number themselves. If providence is on your side they will write
their name and number and you can wipe the sweat of your brow
and feel like a less terrible human being but if lady luck is
on holiday then they might just write down their number assuming
you know their name and will put it in later on. Another scenario
is when you actually recognise the face and just cannot remember
the name or how you know them. In other words when you know
you know the person but don't quite know who they are or where
you know them from. I had this particular problem once when
I was greeted by someone who I immediately recognised but just
could not put my finger on who they were. Did I go to school
with her? Maybe we had some tuition together somewhere or was
it a 'dawat' we had met at. Fortunately she inadvertently helped
me out by asking if I had heard from X, Y and Z which made me
realise exactly who she was and how I knew her!
If
I said "Avi and Ali" to you, would you know who was
the female and who was the male component of this duo? My sentiments
exactly! The androgynously named couple happen to be parents
of a girl who goes to the same school as my daughters. My husband
having introduced himself to the couple forgot to tell me who
was who so when I met them, I took pot luck and greeted the
husband and asked him to thank Avi for dropping the girls home
the previous day. I had a fifty-fifty chance of being right
but on the flip side I had exactly the same odds of being wrong.
From the raised eyebrow and politely hidden look of surprise,
I came to the obvious conclusion that my guess had been completely
off the mark. Trust my luck, he was Avi and she was Ali, short
for Alison! Moral of the story, when in doubt just go for the
safer option of referring to the absent spouse as "better
half", "other half". Oh yes, if you forget the
names of peoples children, it really is alright to ask how the
"kids" or "little ones" are or what the
"family" is up to. You will be forgiven purely on
the basis that at least you asked about them. However, one word
of advice, make sure you know whether it is "kid"
or "kids". Yes I speak from experience where I made
the mistake of asking about the "boys" and then remembered
they only had one. Come to think of it, it's actually a girl.
Oops.