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Dear Mita,
I'm a 15-year-old boy. Someone has hacked into my email account and has been using, or rather, abusing it, by swearing at my friends. I told as many people as I could what happened, but it was not possible to inform everyone. I opened a new account and tried to talk to the person using my account. He/she said that I could have my account back if I transferred Tk. 1,000 to a cell phone number he would give me, by Flexiload. I tried to calling the number many times but nobody picked up. Finally I decided to transfer the money because my email address is very important for me. Later I chatted with the person again and this time he/she said I had to Flexiload another Tk. 2,000. I stopped talking to him/her after that. I don't know who it is but I have a feeling it might be one of my friends. But I can't accuse anyone unless I'm sure. Is there any solution to my problem?
Boy

Dear Boy,
I think you should just ignore this. People who matter to you will believe what you say. Others might think you are guilty but that cannot be helped. Over time this problem will go away by itself. You should not allow yourself to be black mailed in this way. Remember, a black mailer is never satisfied and will keep on increasing his/her demand.

Dear Mita,
I'm a 24-year-old university student and I have been involved with a girl for the past three months. She is three years younger than me and is her parents' only daughter. I recently learnt that she has been in love with another guy for the past six years. But because her parents are against the match, she has recently broken off relations with him. That guy has almost gone mad and has given up food and water. He is distantly related to me, and though he does not know about my own relationship with the girl, he called me to find out about her and why she rejected him. The girl is really in love with me. She calls me every day and wants to spend her life with me. What should I do? Please help.
R2N

Dear R2N,
If the girl has been able to forget a 6 year relationship just because of her parents then I am not very sure how sincere she is about a relationship which started only 6 months ago. On the other hand, people do fall out of love and she probably is not interested in that boy anymore. The most important factor is how you feel about her. It is not enough that she loves you, you must also feel the same about her in order to get into a serious relationship. About the other boy , well he will just have to accept that fact that he has lost her for one reason or the other.

Dear Mita,
I'm a 23-year-old addicted to Phensidyl. I have lots of friends but lack confidence and have no idea about my own future. That's also the image I project and everyone thinks I don't care about anything at all. I have graduated but don't have a job and just hang out with my friends every day who, because they're not yet out in the real world, think life is all about fun. I want to give up my bad habit and I want my friends to do so as well, but they won't listen to me as I didn't listen to them earlier when they asked me to stop. My family wants me to go abroad but if I do, I know they won't let me come back, and I really don't want to leave this country with all my friends and everything else to lead a boring life abroad. What should I do?
D

Dear D,
The only person who can help you is you. The bad effect of drugs is all around. It will destroy you and everyone associated with it. Going abroad is not a solution if you don't give up that habit. Regarding your friends, if they are not a good influence in your life then it is not worth having them. You might find better friends abroad.
Talk to your family members, they will understand your problems and help. Try to get out of it before it becomes a serious addiction and you reach a point of no return.