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Dear Mita,
I want to be a journalist. I am studying English literature (Honours). Several times I have tried my best to do something related to journalism. I read English newspapers and magazines regularly. But all in vain, for when I try to write something, I fail. No one inspires or instructs me on how to achieve my goal. My friends actually discourage me whenever I talk about going into journalism. But I am determined. How should I go about it?

Dear Desirous One,
If you want to pursue journalism in English then the first thing you need to do is to learn to write correct English. You must be able to express yourself in writing which is understandable and coherent. You may start by joining some newspaper as an intern and gradually go up to a professional position. Most journalists have learned by doing. On-the-job training is the best and still the most common way of becoming a journalist. If you are determined then you will surely succeed.

Dear Mita,
I am a 20-year-old student of National University. I have been talking for some time over the phone with a girl. I told her beforehand that it could not get serious. Things were going fine, until she crossed the line of friendship and fell in love with me. I don't love her, and I had told her that if she fell in love with me that would be the end of our friendship. But she has said that if I abandon her she will go crazy and kill herself. She was a good friend. What should I do?
A friend only

Dear Friend,
Well, if she is not interested in being just a friend and you do not want anything more then this friendship will have to end. This is unfortunate but cannot be helped. Do not get worried about her threats to kill herself. She is being emotional and is just trying out a strategy to get you. The most important thing is to be certain that you have been honest with her and with yourself.

Dear Mita,
I am a 23-year-old university student. My girlfriend is 24 and studies at the same university. Recently her family has been creating intense pressure on her to get married. They are searching for a groom for her. She has informed her family about our relationship. But they want her to get married within a year. On the other hand, it will take me at least three years to complete my BBA. They have given her the option of either marrying me now, even before my graduation, or marrying an established person. It is natural for her family to want this, but should I get married before completing my BBA? I haven't told my family about this problem yet. We love each other very much and do not want to lose each other; but at the same time I am afraid that if I marry her now then it won't be possible for me to take the responsibility of a family and do well at school at the same time. What can I do in this situation?
RSL

Dear RSL,
I have written many times that it is not possible to force anyone to get married. It all depends on how much pressure a person can take. If your girlfriend really loves you, is serious and determined then she will wait for you no matter what the pressure may be. There is no question of you getting married before your BBA examination. You must ask her to wait if she really loves you. Both of you must be ready to take on the responsibility of marriage before you get into it.