Opinion

Pep Talk For “Losers”

Saad Adnan Khan
Photos: Kazi Tahsin Agaz Apurbo

To love or not to love.

University life is the time when we fall in “love” and want to be in love. Some people find their soul mates and get married (even before graduation). It is the time to find the significant other, with whom you would want to spend the rest of your life. University life is also the time when you find your own self, when you explore yourself and figure out what you want to do for yourself and society.

So if you just got dumped recently, or if you are single, you need to understand that it is alright! Because it is quite easy to fall in “love” and celebrate Valentine's Day with cards, chocolates and flowers, but it is not the easiest of things to achieve one's ambition and dreams. Our dreams and our ambitions should give us the rush and the high, because quite honestly cards and flowers are overrated. Think of all the time and energy you have when you are single, which you can use behind other important things that might actually mean something for you and your country in the long run.

	Not having a date on Valentine's Day does not make you a loser.

It is, of course, not that easy to deal with broken hearts, but it is not the end of the world. Worse things happen to people. Also, it is quite easy to make yourself busy with work, books, music and of course, good friends. Valentine's Day is all about love, so do things that you love, spend time with the people you love, because that should be the way to celebrate. Mulling over the fact that you just got dumped and that you are single on Valentine's Day is a waste of time. So cheer up! It is very easy to be happy.

But most importantly, there will be plenty of time to fall in love, or find your love. Relationships distract you from other impending matters, such as the disastrous economy of your country or the quality of education of your society. It is more important that you travel when you get the opportunity to learn about the world (sometimes people decline scholarships to study abroad for fear of going into long distance relationships) and stay ambitious and passionate to achieve your dreams and contribute somehow to help your country. Because that will make you a braver and a confident person. One's source of agency lies within oneself, and only you can find it out by working relentlessly.

So celebrate being single, because that means you have more time to think about your nation. Since reality varies from country to country, the national and social make-up of Bangladesh when it comes to romance and relationships should be different as well. Everyone should be aware of the fact that society should be the first priority, for a better future for the community and individual.