Dear Mita,
Being the only child of divorced parents, I never really had the conventional parents or a home. Despite tremendous hardship, I finished my Masters from IUB and am now drawing a handsome salary from a European petroleum company. I am 31 years old and have been longing to get married for years but it seems that being the child of a broken family is the biggest sin and I never really get any good proposals. And if a girl looks for her own partner she gets a bad name. I am lonely as neither my parents nor my relatives have ever cared much for me. I know 31 is a little too old for a settled marriage but I've always wanted to get married, have a family and a happy life. What should I do? Where can I find a man who, along with his family, will love and respect me for what I am?
NR

Dear NR,
You will find someone to love and care for you. 31 is not that old, it is only in the mindset of people who think that women must be married by a certain age. This has no logic or rational explanation in terms of being suitable for marriage. There is nothing wrong in looking for a partner. You must make an effort to meet people, seek help from friends and relatives and express your willingness to get married to the right person. Settled marriage is an option but again you need help from friends and relatives. Please do not lose hope, I am sure there is someone out there for you.

Dear Mita,
I am a student of SUST. I bear my study expenses by tutoring a girl. Some days ago, her mother offered me to stay at their house and teach her children in return for meals and accommodation as a private lodging master. However, she has three daughters and a son, which means that if I agree to stay at their house I will have to teach them all. But I don't want to be a lodging master at all. And I won't be able to teach them all together. But if I reject the offer then it will be tough for me to bear my educational expenses. I am in a great dilemma.
Frustrated Roy

Dear Frustrated,
Since your financial situation does not permit you to reject the offer this is what you may do. Talk to the lady about your time constraints and what is possible for you to spend on her children. Fix a time and make sure that it is not infringed upon. You must negotiate all this before you agree to her proposal.

Dear Mita,
I am a B.Com. (Honours) student under National University in management. My first year finals are coming up and I hope to get good results. But I just can't concentrate on my studies for some reason. People say that the subject has no value. We follow a Bangla medium syllabus while other public and private university students study in English medium. I had even wanted to study English but couldn't. I want to have a successful career but right now I'm very frustrated and distressed. Please help.
M

Dear M,
It is too late to realise that you should have studied in English. You must put all this at the back of your head and concentrate on doing well in your exams. You must work hard and prove people wrong about your subject. Sometimes people talk without really meaning to. You should not pay much attention to all this. The most important thing is to excel in whatever you do.

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