Dear
Mita,
I was a May 2003 O' Level examinee. I faced a lot of problems
with my GCE Computing syllabus. I couldn't finish it and
decided not to appear for the exam. But my father was not
ready to accept this. I dropped the subject and he was very
angry with me, blaming me for wasting so much money on it
and then not sitting for the exam. I couldn't complete the
syllabus as I was unable to attend a lot of classes due
to some physical problems. Was I really wrong in dropping
the subject after registering for the exam and a week before
the actual exam?
Dear
S,
Your father's anger is quite understandable. He is frustrated
that you gave up so easily. I am also of the opinion that
you should not have dropped it. Perhaps you would not have
done well but at least you could have gained experience
from it and done better next time. Anyway, this is done,
but next time, remember it is easy to give up and one can
do that anytime. It is far more satisfying to confront a
challenge and then overcome it.
Dear
Mita,
I'm a 20-year-old student of DU. It has been my long-cherished
desire to study at IBA, DU. I sat for the admission test
in 2001 and did well in the written test and was selected
for the interview but not for the final admission. I began
preparing for the admission test for the following year
while having gotten myself admitted into the Accounting
Department, DU. But the same thing happened in 2002 and
I was very humiliated. Though I got to the interview and
even did well, I did not get admission into IBA. I believe
that I am qualified to study at IBA and that I was discriminated
against for having done my HSC from the commerce group as
I have heard that IBA does not want to take commerce students.
How can I get rid of my frustration? I can't take it anymore
and want to lead a normal life.
-- M
Dear
M,
This is really not the end of the world. Examinations are
as much a matter of luck as they are of talent. Perhaps
luck did not favour you the last two times. There is no
reason to feel humiliated or even frustrated. You must carry
on with your present course of studies. MBA can be done
at a later stage, even after you have started your career.
What is most important is to excel in whatever you are doing.
Becoming frustrated at this stage will not help you attain
your goal. I am sure you will be rewarded in the long run.
Dear
Mita,
I'm in my 4th semester at Daffodil. Two weeks ago, I met
a family whose son I was supposed to marry. There were two
men in white shirts and when I was told that I was supposed
to marry one of them, I mistook the man I was to marry and
fell in love at first sight with the other one and gave
my consent to the marriage. It was only on the day of the
engagement that the guy I liked came to my house with gifts
and called me “Bhabi”. His brother, who I didn't even consider
as my prospective groom as he looked old enough to be my
uncle, is the one I'm supposed to marry. All the arrangements
have been made and even the invitations printed. I know
looks shouldn't be the first consideration but I'm totally
in love with the brother of my husband-to-be. I can't even
tell anyone about it as it's so embarrassing and as I brought
this upon myself. Please tell me how I can break off this
marriage!
--SK
Dear
SK,
I must say that your story sounds more out of a movie than
real. There are many stages before the engagement is announced
and it is very strange that you did not discover your mistake
earlier. Moreover, I cannot understand how you can agree
to marriage without talking to the person. Regarding your
falling in love with the brother. This is again an infatuation
as you have seen him once. A commitment to marriage goes
beyond looks and love at first sight works only for a short
while. However, if this has happened and is totally unacceptable
to you then you must tell your parents that they do not
have your consent. I am sure they will not force you to
marry anyone against your wishes.
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