Dear
Mita,
I'm a 19-year-old university student. I've been friends
with a girl for the past three years. We are very close
and care about each other very much. Unfortunately, however,
she has had to move to another country with her family.
She tells me that only her body is there, her heart and
soul are with me and she often talks about the times we
were together. Here, my condition is worse than hers. I
can't study or concentrate on anything and my condition
is worsening as my exams draw nearer. What should I do to
be able to concentrate better on my studies?
--TYGM
Dear
TYGM,
You are not the first person to be affected by the absence
of a loved one, nor will you be the last. This is a very
normal phenomenon and most people suffer this at one time
or other. The important difference is how people handle
separation. One can get devastated and inoperative but on
the other hand one can get inspired, work harder and achieve
something. The choice is yours.
Dear
Mita,
I'm a thirteen-year-old student and have recently found
that I'm weak in English. I often make mistakes in tense
in my paragraphs and essays and have difficulty writing
correct sentences. My teacher says I'm good at reading passages
but not in creative writing. How can I improve my creative
writing skills?
--M
Dear
M,
I have written on this many times before. There is no short
cut way and you will just have to try harder. If you are
weak in writing then you will have to write much more. Reading
novels and fiction is also a way to improve your writing
skills.
Dear
Mita,
I'm a 20-year-old 1st year Honours student. I passed
HSC from Dhaka Board. During my HSC an 11-year-old girl
in Class 6 (in 2000) fell in love with me. She was infatuated
with me and I knew she wasn’t old enough to be serious about
such matters. I felt for her and we became friends though
I couldn't stop her infatuation. Now I think she's old enough
to know people and choose someone suitable for her and her
family. I want to spend more time with her and get to know
her better. If I was wrong to start with, I won't go ahead
with this or even ask for your advice. Otherwise, please
tell me what I should do.
--RZH
Dear
RZH,
If she was eleven at that time, she must be only 13 now
which is still very young. I do not think it is a good idea
to start a relationship with someone so young. Whatever
her reasons might be for the infatuation. You should try
and choose someone closer to your age. This way you will
have a friend and also someone who might in the long run
become a serious partner.
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