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February 27, 2004

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Dear Mita,
I'm a 19-year-old university student. I've been friends with a girl for the past three years. We are very close and care about each other very much. Unfortunately, however, she has had to move to another country with her family. She tells me that only her body is there, her heart and soul are with me and she often talks about the times we were together. Here, my condition is worse than hers. I can't study or concentrate on anything and my condition is worsening as my exams draw nearer. What should I do to be able to concentrate better on my studies?

Dear TYGM,
You are not the first person to be affected by the absence of a loved one, nor will you be the last. This is a very normal phenomenon and most people suffer this at one time or other. The important difference is how people handle separation. One can get devastated and inoperative but on the other hand one can get inspired, work harder and achieve something. The choice is yours.

Dear Mita,
I'm a thirteen-year-old student and have recently found that I'm weak in English. I often make mistakes in tense in my paragraphs and essays and have difficulty writing correct sentences. My teacher says I'm good at reading passages but not in creative writing. How can I improve my creative writing skills?

Dear M,
I have written on this many times before. There is no short cut way and you will just have to try harder. If you are weak in writing then you will have to write much more. Reading novels and fiction is also a way to improve your writing skills.

Dear Mita,
I'm a 20-year-old 1st year Honours student. I passed HSC from Dhaka Board. During my HSC an 11-year-old girl in Class 6 (in 2000) fell in love with me. She was infatuated with me and I knew she wasn’t old enough to be serious about such matters. I felt for her and we became friends though I couldn't stop her infatuation. Now I think she's old enough to know people and choose someone suitable for her and her family. I want to spend more time with her and get to know her better. If I was wrong to start with, I won't go ahead with this or even ask for your advice. Otherwise, please tell me what I should do.

Dear RZH,
If she was eleven at that time, she must be only 13 now which is still very young. I do not think it is a good idea to start a relationship with someone so young. Whatever her reasons might be for the infatuation. You should try and choose someone closer to your age. This way you will have a friend and also someone who might in the long run become a serious partner.



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