Dear Mita,
I am a second year college student having great difficulty with my studies. I did not study in my first year and got poor results. I want to do well in the future, but the great number of subjects, topics and texts get to me and I feel I cannot cope with the colossal amount of work in such a short time. It is as if I need a 40-hour day to study instead of 24. How can I cope? Please help.
A

Dear A,
You are not the only student in the world coping with work overload. This is a natural phenomenon and you will get over it if you put your mind to it. If you keep on thinking that all this is too much work then you will never get on top of it. Just tell yourself that you can do it and start from your favourite subject. The reality is that you have 24 and not 40 hours, so try and make the best of it.

Dear Mita,
I am a student of SUST. I bear my study expI am a second year management student of Dhaka College. I am in love with a girl who is my Bhabi's (sister-in-law) cousin. I had proposed to her and she accepted. We wrote each other letters and gave each other gifts. But after a year she broke up with me with the excuse of being my Bhabi's sister. Is this my fault? What can I do?
T

Dear T,
She has broken up with you not because she is your Bhabi's sister but because she does not love you anymore. There is little you can do about this. People do fall in and out of love, that is a fact of life one has to accept however unpleasant. You must now look forward and get along with your life. You have many things to look forward to, get yourself ready for a great career which will lead you to many more opportunities. I am sure life has many good things in store for you, just keep up your self confidence and put your memories behind you.

Dear Mita,
I have recently completed my MBA from Dhaka University (DU). I have a girlfriend who studies at DU. We have been involved for four years. I have recently joined a university as a lecturer and am busy with my career. My girlfriend doesn't understand this and the distance created by all this frustrates me. I have refused so many people because I am completely sure I want to be with her. Even though I'm busy, I miss her very much. We have shared many good times together. How should I deal with her? Is it wrong of me to dream of building a bright future for myself? Please help me.
Disheartened

Dear Disheartened,
It is certainly not wrong to dream of building a bright future. But make sure that this dream includes both of you. Perhaps she feels neglected and ignored and is therefore behaving in this manner. You must have a talk with her and explain the situation. But if she is the most important relationship in your life then you have to treat her in that manner. It is your responsibility to build that feeling of trust in her so that she never doubts your sincerity.

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