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Dear Mita,
I am a first year student of ICAB. My father is very poor and had to sell his land to pay for my education previously. My parents are no longer able to pay my education expenses and are pressuring me to get married in order to obtain financial support. I told them that I intend to get married only after finishing my course, which will take another two years, but they are not agreeing with me. I want to remain free of all bonds until I have completed my education. Please suggest something.
--HMA

Dear HMA,
You are right in your decision. One should not get married to obtain financial support; it can only end in misery and frustration. Explain to your parents that it is only a matter of two years after which you will be free and that you should be supported during that time. You should also think of taking up private tuition to fund your studies or take a loan if possible.

Dear Mita,
I am a student of Class 7 at Ideal School. I am an honest and sober boy and am not very stylish. I hate flirting with girls, which most of my friends do. But sometimes, when I'm out where there are young girls with their mothers, if I make even accidental eye contact with the girls, their mothers glare at me. I don't even get a chance to tell them that I'm not looking at their daughters. I've been in this situation several times and been very embarrassed. How can I avoid this? Please help me.
--AMS

Dear AMS,
Please do not be overly concerned about this. You must go about your business and not allow such things to bother you. Mothers are sometimes overly possessive about their daughters and this is more their problem than yours. There is no need for you to explain, as many boys your age must be facing similar situations.

Dear Mita,
I am a third year English student of DU. I am in love with my cousin who is in her first year in college. She is very unpredictable and I can't understand her attitude. We have spent many warm times together, but after each one, she closes up and remains cold and reserved for days. When she recovers after some days, we go back to being normal. I used to call her "bou" (meaning wife), but recently she has asked me not to. I don't know what her problem is. Is she immature or suffering from a moral dilemma regarding relationships between cousins? Help me.
--Bemused

Dear Bemused,
I do not think calling her "bou" at this point is such a good idea. You should have a good heart-to-heart talk with her. She might be confused, which is also natural as she is still quite young. Having a relationship with a cousin is not such a good idea; however, if it is serious and strong then there is nothing much one can do about it. Make sure that both of you understand each other before taking any serious, long-term decision.