I am a 14-year-dold girl in Class 7. I changed my school
in 2004 when I was in Class 6. The problem is that I can't
adjust with my new school and nobody here wants to be my
friend. I have only a few friends here. Most of the girls
don't even want to sit beside me. And for this reason I
cannot concentrate on my studies and I am absent most of
the time. I was never a bad student, and I never want to
see my parents unsatisfied with my results. What should
I do? How can I concentrate on my studies? How will I be
able to adjust with my classmates?
Although what is happening to you is upsetting, this is
not at all unusual. There are many young people who go through
the trauma of feeling rejected by friends and peers. Please
do not take this so seriously; believe me this is just a
passing phase. Even if you find one person in your class
who wants to be your friend then take advantage of that.
Build up a friendship of trust and camaraderie with her
and you will not feel so rejected. You must also try to
win the admiration of your peers by excelling in your studies
and some extra curricular activities. As I said, please
do not lose sleep over this as this will soon pass.
I am a physics student of Jagannath University. My father
is a day-labourer and very poor. He is a great man because
he is determined to educate us at any cost. But he has grown
old and cannot work hard. Because of this, my older brother
had to quit studying after his SSCs in order to start earning
for the family. He launched a restaurant business by taking
loan from some villagers with a lot of interest. Unfortunately,
the business fell through and lost everything and my family
fell into great debt. My father sent my brother to the Middle
East but his income isn't sufficient to pay the debt and
the interest is increasing gradually. My brother has sought
help from and sent me a visa to go join him in the Middle
East. I know we owe it to our parents to give them some
happiness and peace of mind, but I'm also concerned about
my studies. I'm doing alright and am getting a scholarship
which will get me through my MSc. Should I give up my studies
and go join my brother? Please help.
I can well imagine your dilemma as this is a very complicated
situation. However, though your family needs you and rightly
so, I will still advise you to hold on a little longer and
complete your education. This way in the long run you will
be able to help your family in a sustainable way with more
resources. It is not unreasonable for the family to expect
you to help in these difficult times. Please try to explain
that you need a little more time and that completing your
studies will ultimately be beneficial for the entire family.
I teach at an English coaching centre. A girl in Class 10
told me that she loves me, even though she knows that I'm
married. Seeing that she was pretty serious, I told her
that if she wanted me, she would have to do really well
in her SSC exams. She took this to be an yes on my part
and we got physically involved and fell in deep love. But
I'm concerned about my duty, about the fact that her parents
have sent her to me to study and whether I am abusing my
responsibilities. Please tell me what I should do.
I believe what you have done is morally and ethically wrong.
The parents of this girl (who is underage) entrusted you
with a responsibility and you have broken their trust. You
have also abused your power as a teacher and someone the
young girl looks up to. Besides this you have been unfaithful
to your wife who also trusts you. What you should do is
break off this relationship with the underage girl (this
is a criminal offence) as soon as you can and leave this
institution which you have no right to remain in any longer.
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